
Lily
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Lily · commented on 2 posts
20 days ago

Her trying to be fair - NO. Since you got away safe enough you should still report the confronttaion, a threat and danger to your and your children's safety, and that you thwarted a theft by a spouse. No way would I just walk away and not do something about it. Write it all down, as much as you can remember so you have notes to recall in case she does report it.

I'm just going to say this - the kids know a lot more than you think. Talk to them when they are old enough, which is abour now. Don't try to protect them, that's more confusing when they know something is wrong. Kids may need your guidance, but they have minds that can read all kinds of behavior. They know. Talk to them.

Lily · commented on 4 posts
21 days ago

All things considered, she should just set up for a private adoption that can make her some money. I wouldn't support her at all, and since she has no morals, maybe the idea of making money would appeal to her. She's dreadfully irresponsible.

It does not matter if the wife never heard these insults, he heard them, the children were told them. The FIL owes his SIL a public apology. He is not doing so because it will make him look bad. But truth is, if he did apologize it would make him an honorable man. And my firm opinion is that he is not an honorable man, or he would humble himself to apologize. This is control. This is dominance. This is unapologetic criticism and behavior that is not at all acceptable in any way.

Lily · upvoted 10 items
24 days ago

Lily · commented on a post
about 2 months ago

While griief is very personal in how we handle our own, and we can make allowances for what others go through, what is not acceptable is to carry your grief so hard and so far that you are like holding other people's head underwater. It's just not right to inflict your drama-grief on others, making a spectacle at what wouold be a joyous occasion.

Lily · commented on 2 posts
2 months ago

Here's the thing - reality check - the fiancee will still have to navigate EVERYWHERE ELSE, even if there is a dance floor. That's not the issue and them making a bid d**n deal out of it is ridiculous - they are clearly not thinking.

A one-time occurrence can happen, but repeated extremely late behavior is potentially putting the children at risk. She has an obligation to meet when she puts someone in charge of her children. And ignoring calls for hours ad hours, and repeatedly, that's just unacceptable. I don't much like the "threat" aspect of this, I wouldn't have warned her, I would have just called the police if she had not responded to multiple messages.

Lily · upvoted 7 items
3 months ago

Lily · commented on a post
3 months ago

It is standard etiquette at weddings to feed "the help." Period. End of story. He was way out of line, and got exactly what he deserved. Would I have done that, probably not, but after all those hours, and I've done that kind of wedding myself, you can't be thinking real clearly. But I would have turned tail and told them, okay, since now I'm the photographer, you'll need to pay that rate.

Lily · upvoted 2 items
4 months ago

Since they were married and living together, a trespassing charge might have been hard to explain to the police.

Lily · commented on 3 posts
4 months ago

Let me clarify something, she did not have to “uninvited” you. She wanted to but wanted your food. There was no reason whatsoever for the exclusion. None. You went way out of your way for decor and food and she expected you to drive all the way there AND back for nothing. This girl is a b***h beyond reason.

I would have been madder than hell, and made sure she knew it. You DO NOT let a 5-year-old run amok and do whatever they want. Get a lock for your door and keep the room locked at all times.

Lily · upvoted 6 items
5 months ago

LOL thats Egyptian Arabic dialect. "Nafs illiy maktoob bas bel3arabee" is what it says

That's a critic I would possibly write when I was working at The New York Times...

Lily · commented on a post
7 months ago
I don't know what to think, it's not like he's hiding anything, he opened it right in front of her, so he's being pretty open. But the wife's reaction really goes too far. Acting jealous doesn't ever solve a problem if there is one, but it wil create one. Trying to control this is only going to make it worse.

Lily · commented on a post
7 months ago

You’re a complete a*****e. God forbid anyone else takes away from you being special. Good bloody grief, how do you even tolerate yourself.




