cherry~
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I own two quail. The profile picture is a photo of them when they were younger :) Solidarity for Ukraine and Israel!
cherry~ · upvoted 38 items
over 1 year ago
I'm thinking the same thing. He's stuck on intention. But bluntly, it means zip. If you hit someone with your bike, you hurt them, whether you meant to or not. What matters is how the injured party feels, not whether or not the person who hurt them meant to do it. Same thing here, except that Dad DID mean to scare him (just not so much, in Dad's opinion). OP is completely invalidating his son's feelings with the "I didn't mean to!" defensiveness. He scared him. On purpose. The son was traumatised. Dad needs to apologise. That's it.
It's interesting that at no point does OP say he apologised to his son for scaring him. As others have pointed out he definitely should be talking this out with the kid, but a very heartfelt "I'm so sorry I scared you." is in order. Intention means zip, it's the kid's feelings that matter. Think of it this way: If you run over someone's foot with your car, you hurt them, whether you meant to or not. It's the feelings of the injured party that matter, not whether or not the person who hurt them meant to do it. Same principle here, except in this case OP DID mean to scare the kid. I'd still be pissed if I was his wife too, and I'd stay that way until my partner made it right with our son.
cherry~ · commented on 2 posts
almost 2 years ago
Nobody said non native speakers have to write bad. In fact most non native speakers write incredibly well! BoyGanesh's point is that nobody should be commenting on English rather than looking at the story
I want to punch the person that said it was her own decisions that are to "blame", like she chose the trafficking!