
Barbara Asboth
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Photographer in the UK; fiercely believing in self-love and acceptance <3

Barbara Asboth · commented on 19 posts
over 3 years ago

I'm so sorry that society has made you feel that anyone in the above photos looks "bad" in your words, and that you have to resort to selfies to feel okay about yourself. This is the reality for many women nowadays and the whole reason for the project. The aim (if you read the original article via the link, or my comments here, as the article here was edited heavily) was not to say one is necessarily prettier or less pretty than the other. It's to get you, the viewer to question, why might you think the non selfie ones are "bad" if you think they are? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder goes the saying, and in this case it is more apt than ever. If you're not in a mental position to be able to see the beauty of a person regardless of specific features they accentuate or minimise... Then that is mostly about you, not the subjects. I hope you find peace with your own appearance some day.

Thank you! 😊 Luckily it seems that there are also plenty of positive comments, and there has been some interesting dialogue around the project, which I'm very pleased about! Haters gonna hate :)

Barbara Asboth · upvoted 21 items
over 3 years ago

People really are mean, and that’s crazy to me that they are dishing out this much hate. You can tell that the images aren’t retouched, but that’s also one point of the project. Forget the lighting, focus on the point. I, as a photographer, always encounter clients who like to take behind the scenes photos and videos SO CONFIDENTLY, but when it comes to getting in front of my dslr they tense up. I LOVE THIS PROJECT, and thank you for sharing.

I love this project, and I didn't know that phone cameras have a different lens than the human eye (which suddenly makes sense why pictures I take of people on my phone never look like "real life") 😅🤦♀️ I really appreciate this article and interviews, and I really hope you do more!! We're so used to seeing the "reg selfie vs professional photo shoot" type version of this project that it's really refreshing to see "selfie vs human eye"! I feel like the women seem so much more 'uniquely them' in the photos you took than the ones they selected (in the best of ways). I'd love to see a more expansive version of the project pulling in more women who are less confident, as well as having women select their "favorite selfie" instead of just taking one on the spot - the difference would be enormous.