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“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
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“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s

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When teenagers finally become adults, they are let in on the little secret that no one actually knows what they are doing. The truth is that even seasoned adults sometimes need to ask for help and advice to navigate life. 
One netizen asked the internet “What’s a common mistake people make in their 30s?” People shared the ups and downs, misconceptions, and little victories of growing older. So make yourself comfortable, maybe find somewhere to take notes and get to scrolling. Be sure to upvote your favorite posts and comment your thoughts below. 

#1

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Stay in unhealthy toxic relationships.
123points

#2

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Having kids for the sake of having kids.
121points

Once a person is in their mid-twenties, it can be hard to find real-life advice and mentorship. After all, you have been a full adult for some time by then, able to vote, drive, drink, and take out loans. You have possibly already participated in multiple election cycles and maybe even own a car. Younger people might already be coming to you for advice.

You might struggle to explain to them that you don’t really understand what is going on at the same time. So it’s no surprise that many people enter their 30s with only the inkling of a plan and just do their best. Just because someone has survived three decades doesn’t automatically mean they suddenly gain some deeper insight, just like turning twenty doesn’t unlock some new ability. 

#3

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Thinking they are too old. Never too late to switch career paths or look for a new relationship or start taking care of your health.
Giterdun456:
I just turned 30 and realized I’m a bad person. Lying, manipulation, cheating, etc. But I went back into weekly therapy, and I'm pretty determined to not be like this going forward.
117points

#4

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Settling for a spouse.
thefox47545:

See this SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH! People getting married for the sake of getting married. As a consequence, I'm seeing divorces SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH too! Been on dates where it's obvious the girl wants the title of wife more than actually being a wife.
100points

#5

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Not exercising enough and eating a cr*ppy diet. You can't get away with those things anymore like you did in your 20s.
96points

One area that many thirty-year-olds likely don’t think about until it’s too late is physical health. While the twenties are often a peak for many people, this can create bad habits down the line. When you are young, you feel invincible because, in many ways, you sort of are. This rarely translates into one’s thirties, so if a person doesn’t adjust their lifestyle, they end up feeling a lot worse without immediately understanding why. 

#6

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Not wearing sunscreen and taking care of your skin. especially your face.
92points

#7

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
I think the biggest mistake _I_ made in my 30s was kind of going on autopilot. I'm 42 in a month, and, to be dead honest, I'm not sure my 30s even happened. It feels like I went from 29 to 40. And I think it's because I just kind of kept my head down and carried on as usual. I should have spent that time being more pro-active. Stupid me, but it doesn't have to be stupid you!
89points

#8

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Staying at a job they are severely unhappy at and accepting toxic work environments. Cough cough teachers
86points

This is just as true when it comes to partners and careers. It’s actually a bit bizarre that high-school graduates are tasked with picking a career path, then often taking on a mountain of debt, with little-to-no real-life experience. The result is burnt-out people struggling to keep afloat in their twenties, trapped in jobs they don’t actually want to do. 

#9

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Not taking care of your teeth.
83points

#10

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Being concerned about not being the young, trendy generation anymore. Wear your skinny jeans all you want, millennial women!
80points

#11

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Panicing. You do not need to have a great career, partner, 4-bedroom house, and baby on the way just because your 20s are over. Relax.
77points

Some of the responses mention that you will notice time start to fly by quickly for the first time. In the blink of an eye, you go from 30 to 35, suddenly you are now 39. After all, the longer you live, the shorter each day, week, and even month seems, as time and experiences blend together. Learning to be present seems like eye-rolling cliche advice when you are young and can’t sit still for over four minutes, but it comes in handy later. 

#12

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Romanticizing your 20s and fearing your 40s. (live where you are).
iamnottheuser:
It's so easy to romanticize the past and fear the future. Life is organic, and so are we. We will keep changing and oftentimes in a good way (stronger, wiser, more confident, etc.). I'm so happy to be who I am at 37.
69points

#13

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Taking care of your body. Once I turned 31 lots of medical issues arose for me from various things but contact sports leave more damage than you know. Go to the dentist go to the doctor be active. I say all this as I’m about to be in a hospital during a hurricane in Florida. Take care of yourself physically. mentally. and spiritually.
60points

#14

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Making relationship decisions based on avoiding/meeting/holding on to milestones by a certain age. (I can't be a divorcee at 34, I have to be married by 34, I need to start a family in the next two years, I'm too old to start dating again, etc.)
58points

One reason why some may simply try to avoid this question is the tough-to-swallow reality that things tend to get worse. Your body breaks down, you really do need to be setting more money aside for retirement and you have less and less time to function. But you are finally at a stage in life where you have, hopefully, tried enough to know what you want. This knowledge is perhaps worth more than just its weight in gold, which can be simply bought and sold. Experience only comes with time. 

#15

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Not listening to their burnout signals and just settling in for the long haul. You’re not going to make it. And if you do “make it” you won’t like yourself or the sacrifices you had to make along the way.
55points

#16

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Thinking you're a finished product, not likely to change all that much.
53points

#17

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Biggest mistake I made in my 30's was not enjoying them more.
Young enough to party, still play some sports, and perfectly in place in any bar. You have energy, you have a circle of friends (that will get smaller, trust me).
Try to carpe a diem every once in a while, the decade passes VERY quickly.
50points

#18

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Not getting over or at least somewhat understanding your childhood and parental issues. Understanding that stuff can make the rest of your life easier.
48points

#19

“My Body Is Starting To Feel It”: 30 Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make In Their 30s
Not getting that thing checked out by a doctor.
46points

#20

Thinking you can’t make a difference in someone’s life because the world is too large to see your small act. I have a student with extreme depression, and I always remind her that it’s not a bad life, it’s a bad day when she has an attack. Even though she is usually too upset to talk or even respond, I just sit with her in silence until the crisis passes. A lot of people will ask me why I even bother, she’ll never get better, my action is insignificant and means nothing, but you know what: it meant something to her and made her life better. That’s good enough for me. Never think you can’t make a difference, people.
45points
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