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"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
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"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)

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My older daughters, 10-year-old twins, have a secret - at night, when they are already in bed, they pretend to be asleep until my wife and I "supposedly" fall asleep too, and then tell each other made-up scary stories. We don't mind. Firstly, they fall asleep after about 20 minutes of such stories. Secondly, children's secrets are so cute and amusing!
And so, parents in this online thread on the AskReddit community also share similar secrets of their children - which they, as the kids themselves presume, have no idea about. And Bored Panda, in turn, makes a selection of the most interesting and touching stories from this thread for you.
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#1

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
I was talking to my dad about getting away with stuff when I was a kid and said, "You never knew that I would stay up reading every night with my flashlight".

He got an amused look on his face and responded, "You did that for years and never changed the batteries in that flashlight did you?"

That's when I realized he knew and was encouraging it the whole time.
127points

#2

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My daughter's bike was lost/stolen after she left it at the bus stop. After a few days of looking she had given up on finding it. She was crushed and I couldn't take it. I picked up an identical bike, I took the training wheels off just like the first one. When I got home I tried to pass it off that I found her bike.

A couple of days later she told my wife, that she knew it wasn't her bike, but she didn't want to make me sad by telling me she knew.

I know that my daughter knows my secret, but is keeping it a secret from me.
95points

#3

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My best friend is a lesbian. We live in Russia, it’s not safe to discuss openly, and her mom is homophobic. So, the family doesn’t know.

Her father surely knows and just avoids all the drama by pretending he doesn’t. Last small talk with him at her place was hilarious.

— Hi username, how are you? Any kids?
— Not yet, no
— Are you also one of them?
— One of whom?
— Them - *pause, looks at his daughter* -Child free.
88points

It's not that we parents are ratting our kids out regarding their secrets - in fact, most of the stories told here are about secret stashes of sweets, late-night trips to the fridge, or just cute, clumsy attempts to hide some mischief. How right is it to not let our kids know that we know about the secrets they hide so desperately?

#4

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My nephew lied as a kid but my mother knew and called him on it. He asked how she knew (I think she actually saw him do whatever it was wrong without him realising) she said his third eye on his forehead winked when he lied.

For about 2 years afterwards, whenever he lied he would do it with one hand over his forehead. So we *always* knew. It was great.
85points

#5

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My five year old sneaks into his 18 month old brother's bed every night. He thinks he's being sneaky, but I hear him crawl back into his own bed when I get up at 5am. It keeps both of them calm because our neighbors are loud and scare them often.
81points

#6

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
Mine is still little enough to be very, very bad at hiding things. The other day he asked for a toffee. I said no. He went and got a toffee from the kitchen counter, 'hid' under the kitchen table, loudly unwrapped it, and when I still didn't react, he said 'I'm eating a toffee!' 😆.
79points

"Some parents are sensitive to their children having such secrets, perceiving it as almost a betrayal. This is actually wrong," says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. "And in fact, this is connected precisely with the development of children as independent individuals."

"After all, we adults may consider such secrets a mere trifle, but for little ones it can be almost the most important secret in their lives. And the fact that they will not be caught committing this or that prank is actually important for their further self-confidence."

#7

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My 5 year old daughter has a stash of snacks inside of a cat tree. The cats usually end up dragging them out and then I overhear her scolding the cats. 


I let this go on because 1) it's hilarious, and 2) it's nothing I haven't already given her. .
78points

#8

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My son has a crush on a girl in school. He walks home from school every day and visits our neighbors very old dog. My son gives him belly scratches and, in exchange, my neighbors dog doesn’t tell a soul what my son tells him.

However, the dogs owner…who is “working nearby in the garden” is an excellent eavesdropper and knows everything, and she in turn shares it with me.

He will never know that I know.
68points

#9

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My kids sneak food from the pantry after they go to bed. I always know because they forget to turn the light off. Every. Damn. Time. I refuse to let them know what their tell is.
63points

"In addition, a child in the process of growing up constantly tests the boundaries set by parents and elders. They need to make sure where they can go beyond these boundaries - even if only for one or two steps, and where it's absolutely vital to stay 100% obedient. And the task of adults here is to treat this process with understanding, gently regulating it. And have fun together, of course," Irina Matveeva sums up.

#10

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My 7 year old keeps telling me she needs snacks for class and is selling them to the Jr. High kids on the bus.

She has made almost 60 bucks.

Her brother ratted her out.
63points

#11

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My niece (4 yo) wrote her brothers name on the wall and claimed he did it. Her brother was not even a year old yet.
56points

#12

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My daughter thinks she "gets away" with reading when she should be asleep. The fact that I have such a large book expenditure each month is also a dead give away.
54points

As for the stories about these secrets online - well, if everything stays just at the username level, then it can hardly be a real disclosure, right? After all, I think almost all kids have similar secrets - so your little one's attempt to hide the fact that they pooped somewhere outside the potty is not at all unique. Although it's always funny. And stinky.

#13

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
My 2 year old tries to hide a car behind his back when I put him to bed. I pretend not to see it until he gets in the crib and go “ooooohh you got me soooo good! You tricked daddy!” Then I tickle him which causes him to drop the car, I take it and hide it. Then I continue to play with him for a minute until he forgets about the car.
52points

#14

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
He likes to read my journal.

I'm an avid writer and keep several, including my laptop.

It honestly makes me laugh because no one, since my little sister eons ago, has expressed such interest in what I write.

What he doesn't know is that the one on my laptop is my *real* one, and it's password protected. The ones I leave on my bookshelf and office are the ones that are "safe" for him to read.

It tickles me to question him about stuff he shouldn't know but *knows* because he read it in my journal.

"Son, how do you know your Aunt and I are planning a trip next weekend?"

Deer caught in headlights look.

"I must have overheard you two talking..."

"Hmmm...".
51points

#15

That my 20 year old son is gay. I wish he would just come out and admit it so we can stop pretending we don't know.
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46points

So, our dear readers, please feel free to scroll this whole selection, read the stories carefully shared here for you, and maybe add your own, in case you too have this incredibly happy burden of parenthood on your shoulders! After all, sharing this burden with someone else makes it easier to bear, doesn't it?

#16

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
That she pooped. Lady, I can smell your dirty diaper from across the room.
42points

#17

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
I know that my 10 year old writes long letters professing his love to a girl in his class but never gives them to her and throws them in the trash.
40points

#18

My kids read in bed at night after bed time. They thought they were so clever buying book lights with their Christmas money.
40points

#19

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
Not a parent, but when we were kids and one of us was sick, my parents would give us those disgusting purple Tylenol flu pills that you had to chew. My little sister would fake taking them and then stash them under the couch. Our house got flooded in a hurricane and when we pulled the couch out the carpet underneath was dyed purple from all the pills dissolving in the flood water.
37points

#20

"Parents, What Secrets Do Your Children Think They Are Hiding From You?" (36 Answers)
He had a secret character/identity he dresses up as in his room with a jacket and hat and acts out some hero thing. He’s never told us what it is. Been doing it for years.
36points
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