Someone Asked Women To Share Uncomfortable Truths About Marriage And 50 Didn’t Hold Back

Marriage is as much a business relationship as it is a romantic one. If you wouldn't start a business with someone, you may want to think twice about marrying them. And if you do get married, please stay financially separated and independent.

No matter how evolved your man is, it's rarely ever going to be a 50/50 split of effort in the marriage. More often than not, the woman puts in more work

I haven't seen pets yet. If you and your partner do not agree on pets, you're going to have a bad time. I love a house hold of pets, husband does not. Fights have ensued.

I have many friends who divorced because they weren't happy. Only to still be unhappy after the divorce. I want to tell people: work on yourself before placing blame on your spouse. Unfortunately many people have the mindset if they are unhappy it must be due to the person they are with.

According to a study, 25 months after a spouse's death 61% of men and 19% of women were either remarried or involved in a new romance. Women expressed more negative feelings about forming new romantic relationships.

I also read that by remarrying, men are more likely to basically repair the mental damage caused by their spouse’s death, but the same can not be said for women.

If you’re not on the same page in terms of financial behaviors (not beliefs, behaviors) it will be extra hard if not impossible to achieve your goals

People change and there’s no way knowing in which direction

Marriages have peaks and valleys. You'll go through phases where you can't stand each other.

As much as you love your spouse you will seriously want to leave their a*s sometimes!!

Love is a choice, not a feeling. Getting married means promising to make that choice for the rest of your life and too many people don’t realise that, instead giving up when they don’t feel the fire anymore.

Thermostat wars are real

Blanket wars are real

Deciding where to eat wars are real

Backseat driving wars are real

Marriage is not 50/50.

Sometimes it’s 30/70, 80/20, 1/99.

There are some things that make the two of you fundamentally incompatible, and these things likely cannot be compromised on. Love is not enough

My biggest lesson has been that the same "fix it" mentality that helps me so well in the workplace where we identify a problem and brainstorm solutions fails horribly in a romantic relationship.

First, I need to connect with my partner and we need to talk about what we appreciate about one another and get into this appreciative, tender space. THEN we can tackle whatever the problem is, collaboratively.

You may HATE their family

Marriage is most often an antiquated concept. It locks women into a systems that devalues their work, their worth and their autonomy. I had the notion that there was a higher purpose in a marriage, like a different level of commitment would expand my concept of love (even though I was previously pretty suspicious of marriage). It was not. It seemed like a inescapable burden.

Not crapping on those in happy marriages. It’s just the concept of the institution that I have problems with.

That the more intimately you know someone, the more likely they are to hurt your soul.

marriage involves a LOT of forgiveness.

If you haven't healed from your childhood trauma you will bring old unhealthy patterns, habits, behaviors, and cycles into your marriage. Marriage is a commitment to wake up everyday and try to make it work no matter how hard. If even one person stops trying, the Marriage will slowly deteriorate.

In many cases you're adopting an adult baby, and expected to roll your eyes good naturedly at his incompetence. His bad moods require your patience, your bad moods are hormonal or typical female hysteria.

Think about the worst things that can befall a married couple/family: infidelity, death of a child, severe illness, disability, job loss, bankruptcy, etc. More than one of these will happen over the course of your marriage. Do you see your partner managing them, what about you?