It is probably safe to say that there are many women who, since childhood, have been dreaming about their wedding day. Pinterest boards full of wedding theme ideas, wedding dresses, decorations, flowers, bouquets, etc. So it's no surprise that when the day finally comes when they can finally create their real-life wedding fairytale, they want everything to be perfect.
However, sometimes it’s important to understand that it’s your special day, not your special year. About that, one Reddit user shared her story after being called a jerk by her sister-in-law for planning her wedding in the same year as her.
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It’s fair to want your wedding day to be your special day; however, for it to be only your special year may be quite unfair
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Woman shares that her brother and his fiance are getting married in August and she was invited to be a bridesmaid
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Now, the woman got engaged and they decided to get married in April in honor of her uncle who passed away
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After they told the family about their wedding date, her sister-in-law caused a lot of drama, insisting that they can’t get married in the same year because it’s ‘her wedding year’
One Reddit user posted her story online asking for one of the most judgmental community members’ opinions on whether she was in fact being a jerk for planning her wedding 4 months before her sister-in-law’s. The post caught quite a lot of folks’ attention and gathered 3.4K upvotes and almost 1K comments.
The original poster (OP) starts her story by explaining that her brother is getting married in August. Now, the woman added that she just got engaged and to celebrate her uncle’s birthday after his passing, they decided to get married in April, the same year as her brother’s wedding.
However, once they informed the family, SIL caused quite some drama - she insisted that they change their wedding date as that year is ‘her wedding year’. OP refused, to which she received texts saying that they are selfish and cruel for getting married the same year as her. The woman noted that she doesn’t get the issue and asked folks to share their opinions.
Well, the community members stood on OP’s side and gave her the ‘Not the A-hole’ badge. “Year? She's being polite. The 2020s are taken. OP will have to wait until 2030, unless someone else gets married first,” one user joked. “NTA. There's no such thing as a ‘wedding year,’ unless the person is an attention hog/narcissist. Go ahead with your plans,” another advised.
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“When it comes to etiquette and tradition, the concept of a ‘wedding year’ might sound like something out of a rom-com screenplay. It's not a formal rule etched in stone, that's for sure,” shared Jhona Yellin, editor-in-chief at Bespoke Bride, with Bored Panda.
“However, families and social circles might have expectations or unspoken norms about spacing out weddings,” she added. “Having said that, demanding a monopoly on the calendar is something else. That's a bit like claiming dibs on all the roses in the garden—it's just not cricket!”
Now, choosing a perfect wedding date may be as complicated, or at least close to, as actually planning the whole celebration, so in that case, we asked Jhona to share a few key factors that couples should consider. “Factors like season, venue availability, family/friends issues (Yes, don't choose the same month of other close family or friends' weddings!), and even sentimental significance,” she noted.
“After all, you wouldn't want to say ‘I do’ during the rainy season if you're dreaming of an outdoor garden ceremony!” Also, for more tips for choosing your wedding day, check out Bespoke Bride post.
Lastly, Jhona emphasizes that since your wedding date isn’t just a random day on the calendar - it’s the beginning of your own epic love story - why not make it memorable? She shared quite a few creative ways couples can incorporate their wedding date into the overall wedding theme: “From personalized hashtags to custom cocktails named after your anniversary date, the possibilities are really endless.”
“In one of our posts about unique DIY wedding items, we had a great idea of customizing your wedding shoes, painting them and adding your wedding date as well. So get crafty, get inventive, and most importantly, make it uniquely yours,” Jhona encouraged!
So, guys, don’t forget to check out Bespoke Bride for more various tips and ideas for your special day! And coming back to the story, what is your opinion about this? Who was right in this situation? Share your thoughts below!
Redditors stood by the woman and discussed that there is no such thing as a wedding year
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