Wedding dresses are a huge deal for women. It matters most to the bride, who is celebrating a monumental life event.
So if some other woman wears a dress that could potentially take attention away from her, drama could instantly ensue, whether out in the open or behind the scenes.
Here, a man caused some tension within his family after allowing his girlfriend to wear something extravagant to his sister’s wedding. Read through to learn how it all ended.
Wedding dresses are a massive deal for women
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A man realized this firsthand when he allowed his girlfriend to wear something extravagant to his sister’s wedding
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The dress eventually led to heated family drama
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And the author was still left wondering what the big deal was
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Showing up in something extravagant as a wedding guest can feel personal for the bride
For many women, their wedding is the biggest day of their lives. It’s a moment they daydreamed about as young girls. So, when someone does something to steal the spotlight (e.g., wear something extravagant), it could feel like a personal attack.
“Not necessarily because I think it is intentional or rooted in insecurity, but because I have been told this is my day and my moment,” publicist and bride-to-be Chanel Rae Pettaway told Bored Panda.
“When that spotlight shifts, even unintentionally, it can feel like the emotional weight and intention behind the day gets interrupted.”
But can a guest’s extravagant dress actually overshadow the bride’s moment? According to bespoke designer and Milliner’s Row owner Amy Grammer, it is “impossible” to do.
However, she also clarified the importance of giving the couple the spotlight on their big day.
“The unspoken rule of avoiding a white, or overly dramatic, gown reinforces the idea that the wedding is about the couple and the bride's moment to present herself to the guests,” Grammer said.
“Weddings are long-established customs, and understanding the structure is a form of social knowledge.”
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“Ask yourself how well you know the couple”
On this site alone, you’ve likely read a bunch of stories about ruined weddings, all because of a dress someone chose to wear. So, what would be the best way to avoid such unnecessarily stressful situations?
Wedding planner Bonnie Bontempo offered a straightforward piece of advice: ask yourself how well you know the couple. If you’re close enough to them, she recommends asking for a simple thumbs-up or thumbs-down on an outfit.
“Let them know that you are so excited to celebrate with them and you want to dress to impress, but you don't want to step on any toes,” Bontempo said, noting that it would be best to err on the side of caution and choose something else if you’re not close to the couple.
In the story, the author’s girlfriend asked whether it was okay to wear the dress she chose. However, the man’s lack of awareness of how big a deal dresses for women and weddings were for his family and his significant other was a source of tension between them.
As a way to keep the peace, he could have apologized on behalf of his girlfriend, since he was the one who allowed her to wear the dress in the first place.
He added more information in the comments section
Many readers sided with him
Some people thought everyone was in the wrong
And a few thought he was at fault
