So I’ve recently noticed once again just how screwed up our body shaming society can be. How can one not with all the light constantly being shed on it? But, you only see the light being shed on the women. What about the men?
You regularly read stories about women being held to standards by society and how they stand up to society.
But where are the stories about the men?
They are held up to pretty high standards too.
In today’s world the majority of women all swoon over the hot stuff guy with the gorgeous abs and the swoon worthy v-lines that makes smart girls so stupid. And then basically screw every other body type, but not physically, oh no.
Unless you’re one of the about mentioned hot stuff, you’re probably going to be labelled stuff like average, ugly, lazy (for not working out that much or at all), and if you hit on the wrong person you’ll also probably get labelled something like creep or ugly freak who can’t get laid, because that’s just what the majority of society is like these days.
But no one sheds light on this side of society… Whoops! Double standard much?
Post a picture of a ‘hot stuff guy’ online and the comments from the ladies are all pretty much NSFW or not appropriate for the eyes or minors. Seriously, you should check some of that stuff out! It can be quite vile and highly inappropriate. But hey, it’s a guy so who bats and eye?
Now if you post a picture of a ‘hot stuff chick’ online and the guys deliver the same type of comments. Well, then suddenly it is absolutely disgusting, degrading and sexist. Uhm, what?
That’s not fair is it?
Society is not okay when women are judged by appearance but it is totally fine when the same if done with men?
Then some lady mentions that hey, she prefers them not to look so buff, oiled up and like models, but she prefers a ‘real man’ without the abs and with lots of hair, and then she gets called out for not having taste because “how can anyone like a guy who looks like that?”. That looks like what, human? Oh wait, you mean average. Or ‘dad like’. Or ‘the guy who doesn’t spend half his time in the gym’.
Right, because they’re the only ones that deserve to be seen…
I’ve noticed it specifically with the younger generations. The ones who are older, or shall I just say wiser, and usually (but not always) the ones who are married, have been married, or have kids. Because they’re the ones who realize that, just like with women, those appearances can fade, and it’s not what matters on the outside but what matters on the inside that counts.
Sure, you married ‘the stud’ 20 years ago, but now he’s a dad with a beer belly, or even without a beer belly, just an average, healthy body, and you still love him and find him sexy.
But according to so many people at first glance he would be ugly and they would not be interested. And if someone like that were to approach a lot of people today, they’re immediate reaction would be “Eww, no thanks!” followed by a text to their friends about the creepy dude that hit on them.
You read so many stories about guys telling girls to lose weight and “be pretty”, and then the entire world wants that guy’s head on a stake. But what about when the roles are reversed?
You never hear about that, do you?
But you have no idea how many girls degrade men and make them feel unworthy if they don’t spend hours at the gym to look like some hot model.
But where are the people standing up for them and telling them to “just be yourself”, “they don’t know what they’re missing out on”, “ignore them, they’re just haters”, “don’t listen to them, it’s what’s on the inside that counts”.
You don’t hear that do you? Because it’s never mentioned.
Post a picture of an average guy online, shirtless, without all the muscles and stuff. You definitely won’t get the same reaction as you would with the ‘the stud’. Nope, you definitely won’t.
Post a picture of a fat or overweight guy online and people are either going to insult and show pictures of what “real men” look like, or they’re just going to find it comical. Because society believes that you need to be drop dead gorgeous to be a real man or to be found attractive. That’s why all the vampires and werewolves look like models. Because imagine the uproar if they looked anything BUT drop dead gorgeous? *cue high pitched mean girl voice* “OMG no, how can they be a monster I like to fantasize about if they don’t all look like Damon Salvatore or Jacob Black? My life is ruined”. Yeah, right, okay then…
And God help any woman or man who dares try stand up for those men.
The women will be told their taste sucks, they obviously don’t know what a “real man” is, and insults will be flying left and right.
The guys who stand up for the men will be told they’re only saying that because they look the same, they’re so fat and ugly they’re never going to get someone who loves the, etc.
Now if a man told that to a woman it would start a war online. But apparently it is fine for women to say that to men.
Women can insult men and place ridiculous standards on men, which if they don’t meet those standards they’re ugly, and unworthy, and lazy, and so many more names…
Women can say highly inappropriate things towards men in public and online and they are cheered on. But a man even tries it towards and woman and all the women in the world are threatening to kick your ass and calling you names and such.
Because sexualizing a man is totally okay, but sexualizing a woman is WWIII.
Because it’s okay when women do it, but not men?
Yeah well, guess what? I’m a woman and it pisses me off!
Men are ‘real men’ no matter what they look like. Fine, be buff and work out. Or don’t. Be thin, screw the muscles. Be fat. Have that beer belly. Grow the beard. Stop waxing your chest. Just be you.
You’re still going to be a “real man” either way.
But let’s get one thing straight – if you do want to be the “hot stuff” and be all buff and all Jacob Black looking, do it for yourself! Not women. Don’t do it just to get laid. Don’t do it because that’s what’s expected of you in today’s society. Don’t do it because someone told you that’s what you ‘should’ look like. Do it for no one but yourself.
And if you want to be thin or fat, or ignore the muscles and grow that beard and chest hair, then do it. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It doesn’t make you less of a man to just be yourself and accept yourself too.
That’s what society regularly tells women. To be themselves and accept themselves and screw everyone else’s opinions.
Well men, I think it’s about time someone told you that the same applies to you.
Screw everyone else and their opinions. You’re going to be a man no matter what the opinions of others are. Whether you’re the model or the dad. You’re gorgeous and you’re going to be loved by the right person either way.
Just like with a women, it’s what’s on the inside the really counts, and screw the rest and anyone that tells you otherwise.
You’re a man and you deserve to be yourself and you deserve to not be sexualized or degraded based on appearance, just like the women.
So screw appearances and body standards, and screw the haters.
Stop trying to be a “real man”, because you already are one.
So just be yourself.
We’re gonna love you anyway! ;)
