"Shut The Hell Up": 35 Dads Share Birthing Room Experiences And Give Advice To New Parents

If you are a guy that claims that seeing the birth of your child will make it so you "will never see a v****a the same way again", you need to grow the f**k up because you're too immature to be having s*x or children.

Your woman is going to be 100% occupied with birth so be 100% occupied with your woman. No phone, video games, other b******t. You can endure those hours tending to her and being there for her and not having your needs or focus being upfront.

My wife has the highest pain tolerance/threshold of anyone i have ever known, giving birth to. 10.2lb baby without epidural (the dude was late!), she seriously thought she would die giving birth, it was the most most scariest time of my life, so i cant begin to imagine how scared she was and the pain she was going through.

my point being: you are just a witness to how incredible your wife is.

also, listen to the hospital staff, they do this everyday.

Take a good hard look at what your wife is going through. Whatever it is you need to go through with taking care of the baby is nothing (nothing) compared to what she did.

My spouse had an emergency C section so I didn't get to see the actual normal birthing process.

What I did get was a wife who was scared to death so I held her hand and talked her through it in the OR. I had her blood and fluids spill out onto my $100 shoes and I got to see a very angry preemie who didn't look impressed at being born early.

I wouldn't change that memory for anything.

Be there. Listen, support, do not try to fix anything. No one is there to take care of you, so bring your own stuff. Pillows blankets etc. Follow any order from the Dr. Even if it’s “grab a leg and hold it up”. Make zero sexual comments. None. No one wants to hear your s****y jokes right now.

Tidy yourself up for the pictures. You’ll be thankful later.

Be positive and be supportive. Make sure you know what the mother wants in the very likely event you need to speak on her behalf or make a critical decision.

My wife wanted natural births, so our first two were at a birthing house with two midwives myself and MIL. The third kid was birthed at home by me (happened so fast midwife didn't make it until after the birth). It blows my mind how weak some guys are when it comes to birth, like wtf, your wife feels like she's fighting for her life to birth your child and you can't stomach being in the room to help? Get yourself together.... I helped coach my wife through all three births, (breathing exercises, making sure she is staying hydrated and snacking, getting her from the bed to the pool, or to the shower etc), and her and I have memories of each babies first cry's and skin to skin time together, we can look each other and remember each moment, good and bad, and those are memories we'll always have together.

My ex did a home birth twice, with a midwife present. I had the honor of being intimately involved in the process and I actually caught my daughters when they were born and I was the one to pass our children to their mother immediately after it happened.

It’s not pretty, but it is certainly intimate being that involved with the birth of your children. I’m so grateful to have been there for that event.

Even thinking about it now, 13 and 15 years later, it brings tears to my eyes.

If you're a "humor is your defense mechanism" type like myself.
Shut the hell up. I almost cracked my wife up during the C-section because the anesthesiologist and I were having a conversation about raccoons.

Be prepared for things to go to s**t. Birth is very complex and difficult for humans. Don't expect the worst, but be prepared for it.

It was wild. It was a 46 hour labour, her mom came in crying about not being invited and had to be evicted, I got to hold my wife's hand while a doctor went watch deep in her, and I was there when this screaming bundle of life I'd co- created was birthed into this world. I got to cut the cord. I got to be there while she got stitches, I got to hold her hand and help her to the bathroom.

It's dirty. It's gross. Some wild s**t happens. I was absolutely glad to be there every step of the way and I'd recommend it to any expecting father.

Pack a sandwich. This might sound callous but hear me out. You do not want to miss a second of what is going on. Labor can take hours. From the moment you start your journey to a moment you might have to yourself can be more than 24 hours. You walk away for even a moment and you might miss the whole thing. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your family. Trust me on this one.

Be ready for p**s, s**t, the water from the womb is hot and you will breath the steam from that, it has moments of high action on top of lots of waiting.


Most important, you’re partner will be very scared (and rightfully so) be brave for her. Don’t tell her not to be scared, or tell her anything, just be brave and calm *for* her

Oh! I also went to a rural hospital and the doctor had me help with simple s**t which honestly was super cool so if you have a doctor that brings it up, I say take that opportunity.

It’s the greatest thing ever. Tbh I don’t know what dad isn’t going into the birthing room. The best thing is you get to control who stays and who doesn’t (at least I did). I didn’t know my MIL was expecting to stay in the room and when she asked me if I needed her to I said no. She didn’t speak to me for 6 months, best gift ever!!!

My partner got induced that we had scheduled out about a month in advance. We did not tell our families which in retrospect was the best selfish decision we have made. I got home from work, we loaded the car and then went and had one last dinner together. It took about 30 hours from when we got to the hospital until things really started moving. As odd as it sounds we were able to spend a lot of intimate time together that alot of people don’t get.

Delivery was the most amazing thing I’ve ever witnessed and the feeling seeing my daughter open her eyes for the first time is unexplainable. It was the most insane rush of love, excitement and fear. We got to spend the next several hours with just us and our daughter before we told our families and they came.

I recommend for everyone to at least talk about the idea of not having family at the hospital. It’s extremely selfish, but especially if it is your first child these are moments you will never get back and being able to enjoy it with just the two of us was very special. We spent the night with just the two of us and our newborn, no talking to people, sharing her, just us. Highly recommended.

A lot of waiting. Wear comfy clothes. Bring plenty of snacks/water. Bring a book or iPad. Buy the long (10ft) phone chargers. The bed/recliner is really uncomfortable so bring a pillow/blanket if you think you'll need it.

Be prepared to help mom as best and as often as you can. Get her water. Wipe her brow/face if she needs it. Hold her hand. Hold a leg when she goes to push.

You're there for her. It is not about you at this point.
You are there for her support. She may yell, she may swear, she may want to be held, she may not want to be touched. Doesn't matter. You are there for her.
I've got three kids, I was there for all of them, even holding a leg when needed. It is gross, it is amazing. It is wonderful.
Be there for her. Support her and then your child.
But be there for her.

A lot of respect for woman who give birth. Holy s**t dude. It's not a fun experience but worth it for men. You will never look at your woman again the same.

If your wife, gf, spouse is having a C-section. Prepare yourself for the beautiful horror show that is C section birth

I remember looking at one of the docs like *bro is that her spleen in your hand??*.