It certainly isn’t true for these folks who’ve been hiding some pretty big secrets from their partners. They finally decided to spill the beans. Some of the answers are wholesome, while others are downright shocking.
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#1
That's what I told her, anyway.
The secret is that I purposefully make stuff for her to take. I even have a lil spreadsheet so I know what animals/colours are the most popular, and make sure that there's always spares. Obviously I don't know WHO they go to, 'cause of confidentiality, but I try to get as big a range as I can. .
#2
#3
I know what it is to be hungry, my husband never has.
I do not think he would understand. Not that he is against helping, but might get upset with me sending groceries and spending $80 - $100 just for basics for someone to get by till their next paycheque.
In a marriage or a partnership, both people need to be open and honest with each other. The more they start keeping secrets, the more cracks will appear in the foundation of their relationship. Even though research shows that 60% of people hide things from their partners, they don’t seem to realize the damage that it can do.
Whether it’s small or big secrets that someone is keeping from their significant other, that itself is a sign that the relationship might not be on strong footing. This is especially true if the individual hides something because they are anxious or worried about their partner’s reaction.
#4
#5
Actually, this is the first time I've admitted this publicly. It feels kind of good.
#6
Edit: He said yes!!
As you can see in this list, there are many types of secrets. Some can be harmless, like not revealing quirks you’ve noticed because your partner might feel self-conscious about them. Others can be wholesome, like surprises, proposals, and so on. But some secrets can also be alarming or disturbing, and those are the ones that folks most often want to hide.
Studies have found that there are three kinds of things people might want to keep hidden. They include taboo secrets that might stigmatize the person, rule violations that the individual could get in trouble for, and conventional secrets, which may not cause any huge issues but can still make the individual feel anxious or worried.
#7
#8
Not sure how long I'll keep it as a secret. I'm just waiting for the right moment to reveal this suprise.
#9
There is a big difference between keeping secrets from one’s partner and having privacy in relationships. It’s important to understand the difference. Secrecy can violate a person’s trust, be toxic to their bond, and even cause harm. Privacy does not involve violating trust or causing harm to one’s partner; it’s about setting a personal boundary and developing an individual identity.
An example of privacy can be having a separate bank account and keeping the password hidden from one’s spouse. An example of secret-keeping might be getting into severe debt and hiding it from one’s partner.
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#12
Hiding things doesn’t just affect the relationship, it also affects the secret keeper. It can impact a person's physical and mental health and also weigh heavily on their conscience. The stress of keeping information hidden over a long period of time can lead to fatigue, worry, and many physical health issues.
#13
-Met at a football game
-our biggest thing in common is our love for “our team”
-every Sunday for years we get together to watch the games with her family
-I’m not really into football
-I was at the game we met at because someone bought tickets and I was off so sure
- I’ve never really understood it so for YEARS anytime the family cheers I just follow with cheers and when they BOOOO I do the same.
#14
My dad gave it to me a few months into dating him and said that I could do what I want with it. It’s been 5 years and all I need is a nice box and ribbon.
Edit: thanks for the activity, super overwhelmed by the responses.
The watch is a breitling aerospace - my dad and his dad collected watches so we would often inherit ones. They collected them when luxury brands were ‘more affordable’. The timing wasn’t due to me starting to date my boyfriend, just that my dad flew over to get a few older ones serviced as we grew up overseas. He just wanted to bring a gift.
#15
So, if you’ve been keeping something from your significant other, here’s how you can finally unburden yourself. The first step is to wait for the right moment when your partner is in a good emotional state and feeling calm. Then, you should carefully express the importance of what you’re about to share with them and be direct about it.
It’s essential to be clear and honest and clarify any doubts that the other person may have. You also need to prepare for any reaction because it might be intense or overwhelming for them. Be empathetic and reassure them that you will never keep such information from them again.
#16
We’re not wealthy (both educators), but we’ve moved up enough on our districts’ salary schedules and cleared out some bigger debts, so my tenth anniversary gift is a new ring that’s about five times what the original cost (and looks it).
Five months until I can show her.
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#18
Secrets can honestly snowball into huge lies, so it’s better not to keep them from your significant other in the first place. If you do, it would be better if it was a positive secret rather than some of the more weird ones on this list. If you do have something to share, you can start by unburdening yourself in the comments; we’ll definitely keep your secret safe!
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