"Didn't Ask Me A Single Question": 51 First Dates That Crashed And Burned Like A Shooting Star

1. One guy sat down at the table (i was already there) and asked why I was wearing jeans if he told me he likes girls to wear skirts/dresses.

2. Same guy suggested I lose 10 lbs if being in a bathing suit in public with ppl know don't know well made me uncomfortable.

There was no 2nd date with him.

1. (We were teens at the time) guy explained to me how he gets away with shoplifting.

There wasn't a second date with him either.

We scheduled to meet at a coffee place that was very near where he lived, but a half hour drive for me. I arrived early and the location was mobbed by a huge running group that had just arrived, line would be better part of an hour to get a coffee. There are still nice spots to sit outside on the garden wall, so I text to tell him the shop is mobbed so I couldn’t get a coffee but am seated here, and he arrives with a coffee from home FOR HIMSELF and nothing for me. Doesn’t even notice how rude that is as he sits down next to me while I have nothing, and remarks “thanks for letting me know so I could bring my coffee!” And I was like uhm, yeah, glad I drove a half hour for this.

Sucking water and hold it in the straw then bring it out of the cup, aim it directly at me and blow it straight at me at the restaurant. This was the first date and last.

He talked about the second coming of Christ (I’m an atheist) he said he was looking for a wife, and when the bill came it was 11 dollars and he said, “Tell you what, I’ll get it this time, and you can get it next time.”

I felt like I was on an episode of Seinfeld.

LikeMike1984:

Soup isn't a meal.

Do NOT bring your kid to the date!

I met someone online and his profile mentioned “no kids” and he never brought up the kid the entire time we talked (2 weeks). Had our first date and as I’m walking up to the door, he calls me and says “you look pretty! I’ll be right there, I had to change my son in the car.”

Absolutely NOT! Ran to my car, drove off, and blocked him. It’s not fair to interview someone to be step mom when they had no idea it was an interview. And how disrespectful to the bio mom! Just ultimate red flag to me.

Lied about his height which in and of itself wouldn’t have been a huge deal if he’d just been honest. Proceeded to demand a foot massage because he’d been working (so had I and this is the first time we’ve met, bro), had me pay for all of dinner, then proceeded to try to sleep with me after I explicitly said I would not be doing so.

She was too curious about my investments.

scubaSteve181:

Had the same thing happen to me once. Shortly after asking what I did for a living- “Do you invest in stocks?” “How much money do you have invested?” “Do you have any bitcoins?”
Sorry lady, I’m looking for a partner, not a gold digger who’s only interested in money lol

As a woman, a big red flag is when someone talks badly about everyone in their life on the first date. It usually shows a lack of accountability and awareness.

Michael_Stevens-:

Yeah, anyone who badmouths people around them that early is showing way too much baggage. Hard pass.

Not exactly a date, but he showed up uninvited to an event where I mentioned I was going, then lost his phone in his hoarder car and asked me to call it so he could find it.

skillskil:

That's a very creative way to get someone's number...

I ended up matching on tinder with an old friend’s sister who I had never actually met. Date was going pretty well and we were kind of vibing until she told me:

“I used to do coke a lot but now I only do it occasionally. Like 3 or 4 times a month.”

Soooo…every weekend?

Went on a date to the park because the guy had a kid. The child and I fell in love instantly but the guy was pouting and clearly pissed his son and I were enjoying each others company.

W1ldy0uth:

Introducing your kid to your date on a first date seems pretty irresponsible though.

cupholdery:

He's still single for a reason.

Met a guy at a pizza place. His friends were there too (I didn't know they were going to be there) which was weird, but they sat at another table. They proceeded to eat leftover pizza from empty tables. I learned they were all there together because they were on a day pass from a halfway house and got dropped off in a van. 😳.

She told me her father was In the special forces and if I "hurt" her he would end me.


To be clear, this was in the middle of the restaurant, we had been there maybe 15 minutes and it was a random interjection out of nowhere that had nothing to do with the, up until that point, very pleasant and polite conversation we were having about surfing, windsurfing and other watersports.


The second red flag was back at her place and she had a collection of dozens of knives that she said she kept for intruders, and had a pet tarantula and snake, which she also threatened me with.

Kept having to reiterate what an amazing dad he was (ever few sentences) and then bragged how he and his son (just turned 2) watch movies till 2am at night and eat junk food. And how crazy his wife was for calling him a poor father. I paid for my bill and told him I wasn’t interested and good luck. He blocked me while walking to his car and sped away giving me angry glares.

As a women that is +30 is when a guy older than me tells me I’m old to date while he’s looking bald AF.

Lvcivs2311:

To be fair, a man can become bald quite young. But finding someone younger than you too old to date gives me creep vibes.

Showed up drunk.. I ended the date immediately.. then block and deleted..

As a white guy with mixed raced family members I never knew how racist gay guys could be. When I started dating they would just make the weirdest offhanded racist remarks unknowing of my family members. That to me is a huge red flag.

datkittaykat:

This is interesting, I don’t see this dynamic talked about as much.
I’m a straight white woman with a mixed race family as well, and sometimes people come out of left field with comments and I’m just like ???
Sometimes if I talk about race in certain ways they look at me funny and will be like yeah but you’re white and I’m like… my family experience never was so why wouldn’t I talk about this? Idk people are just kind of dumb

Number 1 red flag is someone who doesn’t ask questions. They just talk about themselves.

A date is literally an opportunity for you to get to know the other person. Not asking questions is an indicator that they are more interested in you knowing THEM than them getting to know you. Run away lol.

A couple of weeks ago, I went for drinks with a girl who spent half of the time looking at her phone and even took a call during the date. Needless to say I am not going out with her again lol.

She told me a story about how she stalked a married paramedic after she was helped by him after she had a car accident. I finished the date early, blocked her on anything, and made sure I didn't give personal detailed during the remainder of the date. As a due who had been stalked too many times, I was not having anything to do with that level of crazy.