Coming out as LGBTQ+ is a process of understanding, accepting, and valuing your sexual orientation and/or identity. It involves both exploring your identity and sharing your identity with others. For some people, coming out is gradual; for others, it’s very sudden.
But regardless of who it evolves, coming out to your parents or caregivers puts LGBTQ+ people in a particularly vulnerable situation. No wonder for many, it’s a nerve-wracking experience ranging anywhere from liberating, confusing to life-changing and emotionally shattering.
Parents’ reaction and response they give to their LGBTQ+ child becomes crucial. “What's the best response to ‘Dad, I think I'm gay’?”, someone asked on Ask Reddit, and it hit close to home for many people out there who shared their own honest opinions and experiences.
#1

My stepdad, who I consider my dad, was the man that raised me, and he's a big redneck steel worker. I came out at 18 and he sat me down and said "son, I've loved you like you were my own for the past 14 years. Why the hell would I stop now?"
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421points
#2

Lesbian here. When I came out to my dad he said “that’s ok honey, I don’t like guys either.”
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372points
#3

In the 90s, when my girlfriend finally told her traditional Italian mom and grandma at 19, they sighed in unison and grandma said, 'oh thank baby Jesus, I was worried that I was going to have to tell you.
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366points
#4

One of my friends from high school was gay, and when he came out to his family his Dad literally didn’t look up from his newspaper & told him his sister didn’t need to tell him she was straight so why would he need to explain that he was gay? He’s known him his whole life and already knew that.
It was cute because he was so worried.
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310points
#5

When I came out to my dad when I was 16 I thought he would disown me. He said: “Son, If anyone ever hurts you for that, I’ll f*****g kill them”. In that moment I realized that I had the best dad in the world.
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#6

“I thought you were about to give me bad news! Don’t scare me like that!” - My granny when my uncle came out (in the ‘70’s!). She was decades ahead of her time…
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304points
#7

I drunk-dialed my dad my freshman year of college in a sobbing mess and told him I was Bi. Went something like this:
Me: I'm bisexual.
Dad: Yeah, I figured.
Me: Huh? What?
Dad: There were some obvious signs. Go to sleep idiot. You have class in the morning.
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284points
#8

I want you to know that no matter who you love, I still need you to take out the trash. It's full. And replace the f*****g liner this time."
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#9

It's okay, your mother likes guys too, maybe I am the weird one.
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#12

I was getting ready to go to a sleepover with a girl I was totally crushing on and my mom was like “you look like you’re getting ready for a date!”
And I paused and was like “would it be okay if I was…. Going on a date with a girl?”
My mom just said, “Of course just remember to practice safe sex. You can get STDs from girls too!”
And I paused and was like “would it be okay if I was…. Going on a date with a girl?”
My mom just said, “Of course just remember to practice safe sex. You can get STDs from girls too!”
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#13

Well... My dad said "I know... And I don't care. As long as you are happy, I'm also happy for you." and then asked me if I wanted a beer or scotch to celebrate that I finally had the confidence to tell him.
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222points
#14

I came out a few months ago at the age of 42. My 80 year old dad stood up, started dancing, and tone deaf sing-yelling ‘I have a gay daughter and I love herrrrrr!’ It was adorable.
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222points
#16

I’m Bi. When I came out to my parents, It wasn’t exactly planned.
My older brother knew I was dating a girl and he accidentally let it slip in front of my mom. My mom looked at me, and asked if I had a girlfriend. I said yes, she then proceeded to ask when I’m bringing her over for dinner. It was the most normal conversation about dating I’ve ever had with my mom.
I later found out my mom is also bi so it really wasn’t as big of a deal as I thought it was at the time.
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211points
#17

When I came out my dad had the best response ever: "Wow! Now maybe I'll get a son-in-law that I really like!" and then he hugged me.
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#19

So my aunt is kind of old school and doesn’t know how to address things. She is kind of in the middle between baby boomer and Gen X so she is a bit more tolerant, but she is still awkward. My aunt has 3 boys and they are all gay lol. The youngest one was like 9 or something when he told her and he goes “Mom, I think I’m gay” and she looks at him dead in the eyes and says “So? what the f**k you want me to do about it!?” Lol
She’s fully supportive and tried to be nonchalant but her reaction was probably not what he was expecting.
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161points
#20

When my daughter told me she was gay, I just told her I loved her, and that none of that would change my feelings. Then I began giving her the heads up when hot ladies would walk by.
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