Having a friend means there’s someone you can rely on through life’s biggest moments. Assuming they actually care about you, of course.
However, future bride and Reddit user Busy_Detective6667 is starting to realize that her longtime bestie might not be as dependable as she once thought.
As the wedding planning ramps up, everything is beginning to feel more and more complicated, and the biggest headache, hands down, is her friend’s demands.
It looks like she is only willing to go as far as it fits her comfort zone—which isn’t even the bare minimum when you consider how long the two women have known each other.
Planning a wedding is already stressful as it is
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And on top of that, if your best friend starts pressuring you to make it revolve around them, it might be time to reconsider the guest list
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Wedding etiquette should come into play long before the big day arrives
According to a study by The Knot, wedding guests care most about:
But etiquette expert Lizzie Post of The Emily Post Institute says modern weddings are a group effort, so guests shouldn’t automatically assume that they will just have dinner and dance and call it a day.
“Destination weekends are not new, but now the brides and grooms are taking the lead when it comes to planning,” says Post. They’re organizing their own activities to better control the expenses and have the wedding that feels personal to them.
But because more events and logistics are involved, it’s important to establish clear expectations and communication early on. It sounds like our bride made a real effort to plan ahead and let guests know what the weekend would look like, but her friend may have, for some reason, interpreted this preparation phase as a point at which her input could still shape the outcome.
If the first thing that came to the friend’s mind when she received the invitation was how much of a drag it would be, then maybe she should have taken a moment to evaluate where the sentiment originated. It isn’t rude not to go to a wedding. One of the biggest wedding guest etiquette rules is to be actively engaged while attending the event. Sure, people might get distracted, but the happy couple has requested their presence, and if you can’t enjoy yourself, why ruin everyone else’s time too?
At the end of the day, wedding guests need to be respectful and carry themselves with gracious manners. The newlyweds have spent months (some even years) preparing for the big day, and you’re simply there to celebrate their love, not throw a personal party within their party.
As people reacted to her story, the bride provided more information about the wedding and her friend’s behavior
