All parents deserve to have a night out every now and then where they can catch up with friends and rest assured that their little ones are safe at home with a sitter. But there is certain etiquette that comes along with hiring babysitters; just because they’re waiting at home for you doesn’t mean they’ll wait all night…
Below, you’ll find the story that one teenage babysitter recently shared on the “Am I the [Jerk]?” subreddit wondering if she was wrong for calling the police on a couple who repeatedly ignored her calls, as well as interviews with Lynn Perkins from UrbanSitter and Barbara Stuckwisch, J.D., Executive Director of Safe Sitter, Inc.
Babysitters can be a godsend for parents who need an occasional night out
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But just because there's a sitter at home doesn't mean moms and dads can abandon their responsibilities completely
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When leaving their children under someone else's watch, parents still have an obligation to keep in contact
We all know babysitters can be a necessity for parents trying to keep their relationship or social lives alive. It can be challenging to find a time for date night or to go out with friends, but when parents find a babysitter they trust, the world is their oyster yet again. According to a survey from Legal & General, 45% of couples hire a babysitter when heading out on a date night. And while 44% of parents prefer using a grandparent as their babysitter when possible, nowadays, there are plenty of apps and websites available to help parents find sitters.
To gain more insight on this topic, we reached out to a couple of babysitting experts: Lynn Perkins at UrbanSitter and Barbara Stuckwisch, J.D., Executive Director of Safe Sitter, Inc. First, we wanted to know if it is always important for parents to be available to answer calls while their children are at home with a sitter. “It is ideal for the parents (the employer) to be available to answer calls when their children are with a babysitter, but this is not always possible; therefore, the employer should provide an emergency contact for the babysitter in case they cannot be reached while they are away from home,” Stuckwisch told Bored Panda.
Perkins also added that it’s important for parents to leave clear instructions for the sitter. “The parent should let the babysitter know if they will be available and how they prefer to be messaged,” she explained. “For instance, many parents prefer to receive a text message for questions that aren't urgent and they ask the babysitter to reserve phone calls for an emergency. If parents plan to be unavailable they should always leave the phone number of an emergency contact.”
By not responding, these parents ran the risk of their babysitter going home at the agreed-upon time and leaving the kids unattended
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And when it comes to situations where the parents are not home at the agreed upon time, Perkins says, “It's best practice for parents to contact the babysitter before they are going to be late if they know that they are running behind. It's one thing to be running behind by five to ten minutes, but you should still notify the babysitter. If parents would like to stay out beyond the agreed upon time with a babysitter, they really need to ask the babysitter before they will be late.”
“As for the babysitter, it's appropriate for the babysitter to call or text the parents when they are late,” Perkins added. “If the babysitter cannot reach the parents or an emergency contact, [they] should contact authorities when they feel safety is an issue or the concern has grown great for the babysitter or children.”
Stuckwisch also noted that clear communication can prevent misunderstandings. “An employer should warn a babysitter in advance if they know they may not be home on time,” she told Bored Panda. “If the employer has not returned home at the agreed upon time and they aren’t responding to calls and text from their teenage babysitter, it is appropriate for the babysitter to contact the employer’s emergency contact. If they do not have an emergency contact for the employer, or they need help deciding what to do, they should contact their own back-up adult, usually their own parent, for help.”
Life is unpredictable, so it's important that parents leave clear instructions and emergency contacts for their sitters
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Finally, we were curious what all parents should understand before leaving their children at home with a sitter. “Just as teenage babysitters should screen each job to make sure that they are available, are able to manage the job, will be safe, and have their own parents’ permission to accept the job, so should employers screen each babysitter,” Stuckwisch explained. “Employers should also provide babysitters with the details of the job, including when they are leaving and when they will return, as well as the information necessary for the care of each child. They should leave their contact information, including a cell phone number or other number where they can be reached. If they will be unavailable to answer calls or texts, they should leave the name and contact information of someone that can be reached in case there is an emergency.”
Perkins reiterated the importance of clear instructions being left for the babysitter. “They should include multiple forms of contact information for themselves and a nearby emergency contact, information about where they are going and when they will be home, and any specifics about the children's rules, health, and schedule,” she noted. “Parents should hire a babysitter who is qualified both in experience and maturity for the job at hand. For instance, a more experienced babysitter might be appropriate for a job that requires putting children to bed and staying late.”
“The children and babysitter's safety is paramount. We encourage families and babysitters to put safety and wellbeing before everything else,” Perkins added. “This ensures a positive experience for everybody involved.”
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Have you ever encountered an issue like this while babysitting? And would you have called the police in this situation? Feel free to share, and then if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article featuring babysitting drama, look no further than right here!
Readers assured the teen that she had done nothing wrong and called out the parents for their negligence
