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“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD

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There is an entire industry around providing productivity advice and tips and tricks to get tasks done. Indeed, Bored Panda has featured some bits of advice, from things people wished they had known earlier, to absurd, out-of-touch recommendations from baby boomers
But one netizen with ADHD came to the realization that this disorder made a lot of common tips and tricks irrelevant. So they asked the internet to share their similar examples. So get comfortable as you scroll through and be sure to upvote your favorite examples. If you have any of your own, feel free to share them in the comments section below.

#1

Also … take breaks. Like this sounds lovely but if I’m on a roll I should stay on it. Taking a break means I’ll probably never come back to what I was doing
132points

#2

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
“Go and sit in a quiet room with no distractions”
But Mother, I AM the distraction!
100points

While often associated with children, there are many adults who do at least exhibit symptoms of ADHD, even if they have not been diagnosed with it. The real numbers may remain vague, as studies show that many adults who were diagnosed with ADHD in their forties were identified as having it between the ages of 11 and 15.

In North America and Europe, where researchers have more data to work with, the estimates range from three to five percent of the population, of which less than ten percent were formally diagnosed at a young age. If this proportion holds for the rest of the world, then perhaps five percent of the human population has ADHD, of which the majority would be male

#3

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
“Just be yourself”
Um, no. I’m hyperactive, hyperverbal, impulsive, and extremely loud. Better advice is to read the room, pause, try to model social behavior, and pace myself.
92points

#4

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
Clear away your clutter so you have a clean workspace. Ma’am/Sir, the moment that thing goes out of sight, it ceases to exist. Then I will waste time, energy, and/or money recreating it when I need it.
90points

#5

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
"Just get up & try", in terms of task paralysis.
FYI, non-ADHD people: I'm not procrastinating. I'm not being lazy. I'm not ignoring you.
I am literally *unable to function* due to my brain's inability to organise & prioritise. I can't "just give it a go"; I am literally paralysed by the stress of the number of minor actions I'm going to have to follow in order to complete this "simple task" you're talking about.
I once tried to explain to my mum that progressively shouting at me louder & louder did *not* in fact help my task paralysis, & actually made it much worse.
She then told me that I'm "wrong", & that her shouting at me is meant to "snap me out of it".
87points

One of the rarer cases where “general advice” and “advice for folks with ADHD” intersect is when it comes to physical activity. Aerobics in particular has been found to be an effective add-on to ADHD medication in children and also it can help adults focus for longer periods of time. 

#6

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
When it comes to cleaning: Just do a little bit at a time. That’s not how my brain works. I’m either glued to the chair, or I’m cleaning for at least an hour.
81points

#7

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
Any that essentially boils down to “so I know you have a disorder that makes it hard to self-regulate, but have you tried self-regulating?”
79points

#8

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
"buy a planner"
I own so many empty planners
75points

For children, the effects are even more visible. Besides simply being healthy for the body, kids that aerobic exercise alongside other treatments were found to have a host of improvements, from increased behavior and motor abilities to faster information processing speed, and better memory, which is pretty important for people with ADHD, as they can tell you themselves. 

#9

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
Basically any advice that wasn’t written by an adhd person. My least favourites are the ones around habits.
“Just do something at the same time, for the same amount of time, every day for 21 days until it becomes a habit!”
Dude, I can’t do something at the same time every day for two days in a row, what makes you think I can do 21.
It’s especially frustrating because I wish I could. There are things I want to learn and skills I want to develop, but consistency does not exist in my reality.
65points

#10

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
I think the idea of rewarding yourself after a task is a flawed one for us ADHDers. My brain just thinks "well I can just have this reward now" so because of my impulsivity I reward myself regardless of doing the task or not. I stumbled upon the concept after reading the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear, which at first I thought was a very good book but it just doesn't apply to people with ADHD.
64points

#11

I’ve been a night owl since I was literally born and most school nights I would lay in bed tossing and turning all night til the sun came up. This caused me to miss a lot of school because I was constantly exhausted and the only advice I got for it was “go to bed earlier!” Always after me saying I couldn’t fall asleep until 6-7 am despite laying in bed all night. A lot of people seriously just don’t understand or care how adhd actually affects you.
59points

As the aforementioned late-diagnosis statistics show, most people simply assume that what works broadly will work for people with ADHD, even if more people have it than one would think. This means that most folks who have ADHD will need to test tips and advice themselves, as this thread shows. So it can be helpful to look online and see what works for others. 

#12

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
I've always been told the best way to work/study is to find a quiet space and focus on the sole task you need to do, but recently I've found that listening to heavy/energetic music as I'm working on a task just works so much better for me.
59points

#13

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
Just meditate. Even worse: no screens before or in bed. Are you freaking kidding me?!
58points

#14

"If they wanted to, they would."
Newsflash: There have been *COUNTLESS* times I have mentally yelled at myself to do something I know I *need* to do while being stuck on the couch doom-scrolling on my phone. Depression and anxiety doesn't help.
56points

On the positive side, the increasing awareness of ADHD does bring some more research on the topic. Recent studies show that there might be a stronger link between creativity, out-of-the-box thinking, and ADHD than previously thought. This same study suggested that Leonarda Da Vinci’s self-described procrastination and strange time management may have been an indicator that he had ADHD as well. 

#15

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
"Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself".
No, it turns out people do want regular communication and birthday presents, and don't always want Fun Facts.
50points

#16

Anything that effectively suggests treatment isn't needed.
Metanalysis has found that not treating leads to a 5-fold increase in negative outcomes compared to any other approach. Depression, anxiety, substance abuse, ... We cause a significant portion of traffic accidents (when younger), high rates of teen pregnancy, or just starting a family ~8 years earlier than the general population on average.
The idea that it's just a personality type, or that everyone has adhd, or that it's a lack of discipline, or that all you need is a planner, etc etc. All bad advice.
Tools and discipline help, for sure. But it's effectively the fact that they aren't a solution that makes ADHD a disorder in the first place..
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47points

#17

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
Time blocking. I'm sorry but do you really expect me to stop studying in the middle of a chapter just because I finished my block?? Nah, there's no break until I'm done
46points

#18

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
I was in a management class and we talked about "Deep Work". She said there's absolutely no way you're able to do deep work while listening to anything.
My dude, I literally don't even pay attention to what I'm listening to, I just need SOME kind of stimulus in order to function. I am at my least focused when I'm working in silence!
One of the rules of deep work is literally "embrace boredom" without realizing that boredom often translates as depression in individuals with ADHD. I physically cannot take it, it's like someone's pulling hairs out of my skin every moment I'm understimulated. Easily was my least favorite class because it really did just hammer home that business does not give a f**k, even in health (as it was a healthcare-focused management class)
46points

#19

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
I feel like "ADHD is a superpower" is corny and unhelpful.
45points

#20

“I Can't ‘Just Give It A Go’”: 30 Pieces Of Advice That Fall Flat For People With ADHD
"Don't worry about it".
As if I can switch off my thoughts. I have literally 5 trillion thoughts going through my mind at any given moment, at least a few of those thoughts are going to be worrying about "it". I wish it wasn't the case, but I'm literally worrying about everything everywhere all at once.
45points
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