If you want to make others feel instantly more engaged in a conversation, give them space to talk about themselves. A single, well-placed question can help new friends open up naturally. Then notice what happens when you simply stay quiet and let them answer fully.
This is backed up by research from a Ph.D. Diana I. Tamir, Ph.D. Jason P. Mitchell of Harvard University, featured in PNAS.
They found that what researchers call self-disclosure is intrinsically rewarding. Participants were even willing to forgo money for the chance to share their thoughts.
That means when you invite someone to share, you are tapping into something people already enjoy. Just keep it light, as one thoughtful question works far better than turning the moment into an interview.
This is backed up by research from a Ph.D. Diana I. Tamir, Ph.D. Jason P. Mitchell of Harvard University, featured in PNAS.
They found that what researchers call self-disclosure is intrinsically rewarding. Participants were even willing to forgo money for the chance to share their thoughts.
That means when you invite someone to share, you are tapping into something people already enjoy. Just keep it light, as one thoughtful question works far better than turning the moment into an interview.