“What Tip Or Piece Of Advice Do You Constantly See That You Strongly Disagree With?” (31 Answers)

When someone is upset or feeling down and people say “ there are bigger problems in the world”. Really isn’t helpful at all, if a person is already feeling down what good is thinking about more larger scale problems going to do for them?

“never give up” .... sometimes you have to realize your efforts were futile and move on

'Respect elders' - just because people are older in age doesn't mean that they are smarter and deserve your respect. That's something that should be earned and should go both ways no matter the age.

That people only treat you the way to let them treat you.

Sometimes an ahole is an ahole, and there's nothing you can do about it.

"they're bullying you because they're jealous of you"

bs, kids bully each other because they are evil

"What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger." Not true. Sometimes it makes you weaker too.

"Man up" gets a special shoutout. Most of them in this thread there is at least some use for then. "Man up" just means "you're the wrong gender to be allowed feelings, shut up" which is literally always bad.

That you need to clean your plate. If you are full, STOP EATING. Otherwise, I think you forget the difference between being FULL and being STUFFED.

Family is everything. Popping out a kid does not grant you knowledge on how to raise a child. Terrible people have kids and expect to be be prioritized because "family". You can cut out toxic family members. You can choose your own family with friends who support you and give it to your straight. Life is too short to be chained to toxic people simply because you're related.

That everyone needs to go to college. It's great for many, but isn't a good fit for some, and it is entirely possible to be successful without it.

"You can do/be *anything* you want if you just believe and work hard enough!"

Telling new couples to "not go to bed angry". That is BS. No one is going to come to a logical and peaceful resolution in a disagreement while they are tired, disallusioned, and irritated. Even hostage negotiators know that sometimes you need to back away from the discussion and allow time for fresh air to pass.

If you and your S.O. cannot agree on something that is important to you both and it is getting late, agree to table the discussion for tomorrow. Go to bed and allow your sleep to relax and refresh your mind. If you don't cuddle that night, it is okay. The next day, you both will be able to hash out the issue with cooler heads and logical reasoning.

You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself first. I love my niece and nephews and sisters more than life itself. If I could just die right now, I'd celebrate. I hate myself, I hate the life I live, who I am, the way I look, everything. But damn if I wouldn't go to the ends of the Earth to make my family happy. Don't tell me I can't love them because I don't love me.

Am meteorologist.

Do NOT get under a highway overpass to hide from a tornado. It is possibly the worst place you could be. The wind gets forced into a narrow channel because of the bridge, and it INCREASES the wind speed, and likely ends up burying you in debris, not to be seen for 3 weeks when they dig your body out.

That stupid video from Andover KS in 1991 has killed so many people in the last 30 years...

EDIT: To answer a few FAQs from the replies:

* Do not stay in a car. If the tornado is strong enough to throw heavy things at you, it's strong enough to throw the car. You need to find a building. The car should be basically your last resort. It is better than literally standing next to the car, but even lying flat in a ditch is better than being in the car.
* Only in extreme cases would I ever advise trying to escape, as in leaving your home to get IN a car and get away. The path of a tornado is relatively narrow and quite erratic at times. By the time you're SURE it's going to hit your house, you have literally seconds left to react. If you leave sooner, there's just as good of a chance that you would have been fine at home.
* [Here's the Andover video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xk5gvuraXzo). The part I'm talking about starts at 1:30.

Pretty much all of the essential oil "advice". You know what they call alternative medicine that's been proven to work? Medicine.

“Don’t worry, things will get better” haha, tell that to the people who cried for help only for help not come/work for them.

Some things do get better, but not everything.

"Just play the game," especially in an office setting.

There's something to be said for fitting in and getting along. We all have to make concessions for society to work.

HOWEVER. People who perpetuate the idea that your workplace is toxic and political by design and that the only way to navigate it is to be a sociopath are part of the problem. And we all know that person who says they're above the drama but they never do anything to quell it nor do they ever stand up for anything they believe in for fear of "starting s**t."

Nobody likes conflict. If voicing a reasonable opinion to a reasonable person or defending yourself against underserved criticism is "starting s**t" or "not playing the game" then congratulations. You work in a toxic environment.

I dunno. Tacit support of horrible situations just irks me.

Good things come to those who wait

“We have to respect other people’s values”

Speak to the cannibals, slave owners and terrorists. They would be very delighted with this favorable social gospel of providing them the conducive space to perpetuate and propagate their murderous customs and creed. Why are we even clearing out cannibalism and cannibalistic tribes? There are things we just should not even condone, not to say, giving respect to those barbarism. Understand and empathize, maybe, but respect?

"Practice makes perfect"

If you're not practicing something the right way, you won't be perfect at it.