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Men Are Outing Toxic Guys By Sharing The Subtle Red Flags Women Should Be Cautious About
CuriositiesNOV 26, 2022

Men Are Outing Toxic Guys By Sharing The Subtle Red Flags Women Should Be Cautious About

Indrė Lukošiūtė
Ieva Gailiūtė
Indrė Lukošiūtė and Ieva Gailiūtė
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In today’s "love at first swipe" culture, dating has become an extremely complex dance. With sweaty palms and a pounding heart, you scroll endlessly through apps and go on countless dates in hopes of meeting someone who might become "the one."
But when you finally find a person who gets you, those early days of a relationship can pass in a fog of bliss. Which often clouds your judgment and makes you miss the painfully obvious flaws being waved and flapped under your nose.
It’s important to be open-minded when dating, but it’s equally crucial to see the worrying warning signs sooner than later to avoid getting into unfortunate situations. Especially when some red flags are redder than others, even if they're incredibly hard to spot.
So one Redditor reached out to the men of 'Ask Reddit' and posed a question: "What are some less obvious red flags about men you would want to caution women against?" The thread immediately became a hit, with hundreds of honest responses that give a glimpse into the instances where women should proceed with caution or cut things off if necessary. We’ve gathered some of the most illuminating responses to share with you, so continue scrolling. Be sure to upvote the ones you agree with, and share your own experiences in the comments.

# Rdikin reply

If you're in your late teens or early 20s, and you're being pursued by a man in his mid-late 30s, ask yourself what the women his age see in him that you don't.
It will save you a lot of trouble
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# awpti reply

You want a kind man, not a nice man/guy. Nice is transactional. Kindness is given freely.
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# stuffyassface reply

stuffyassface reply
I’m coming in late but this is something I’ve tried to teach all my daughters. Men will show you how they feel with their actions. If they say they care, but don’t put in the effort, listen to the actions. Not the words. Good advice for dating but also good advice for life really
stuffyassface, Shea Rouda
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# Jack3715 reply

Jack3715 reply
So about his last 3 relationships and why they ended. If it is always the girl was crazy - it’s him, hes crazy
Jack3715, Priscilla Du Preez
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# ScaricoOleoso reply

ScaricoOleoso reply
When they don't respect the word no, even in the most benign of circumstances.
ScaricoOleoso, Charlie Foster
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# Jay-Ames reply

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If you hear a little voice inside you that says "I can change this man", he is not the man for you.
Jay-Ames, Nicholas Barbaros
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# m0c0 reply

m0c0 reply
A friend of mine dated a guy who apparently everyone wanted to fight.
At the gym. "This guy over here want to throw down."
At a mall. "Those guys look like they want to get hit."
At the grocery store. "This dude is looking at me like he wants to go outside."
No Steve. No one feels like fighting you. You are just on steroids.
m0c0, Dan Burton
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# Robin-KC reply

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Don’t trust a man who can joke about others but can’t take it.
Edit: I know that this can apply to women. The thing is, I shouldn’t need a disclaimer just to gain permission to critique men and some of you shouldn’t need to drag women down just to acknowledge a personality flaw.
Robin-KC, Brooke Cagle
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# OreoKing10 reply

If he tries to make you feel crazy/invalidate your feelings for being uncomfortable about something or for having boundaries, run.
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# Revolutionary_War503 reply

As a father, things I've tried to teach my daughter to be aware of are subtle manipulations. In a healthy relationship there is no "let" as in, letting you do stuff or asking for permission. Watch for subtle controlling, passive aggressive comments or remarks. If he attempts to drive a wedge between you and your friends or family, move on. Watch and listen to how he treats other people. If you don't have self respect, he won't treat you with respect. If he doesn't call for days then acts like it's no big deal, move on. If he's clingy, definitely move on. Having a victim mentality attracts predatory, abusive behavior. If anyone treats you less than how you feel you deserve, it is imperative you deal with it early and quickly. If there's no meaningful communication or compromise, don't waste your time. Life is too short to deal with a possessive, jealous, controlling, manipulative, emotionally stunted or wrecked man. You can't fix people. Protect yourself and move on with your life without that person and don't look back. It's ok. Breakups are tough when you've invested your time and heart but you'll be better off alone than with someone like that. If he scares you, come to your dad's house. If he's smart, he won't follow you here.
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# SnooChocolates4588 reply

SnooChocolates4588 reply
Him making fun of you in front of his friends or your friends. Cute teasing can be mildly tolerated but actually making fun of you? No thanks.
SnooChocolates4588, Surface
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# kungfufiddy reply

No one mentioned the replacement mom issue.
I unfortunately had some friends who thought that once they get into a serious relationship that it’s the woman’s sole purpose to clean after them. No man children.
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# BlewOffMyLegOff reply

BlewOffMyLegOff reply
If he’s mean to servers, but nice to you. He’s not a nice person.
BlewOffMyLegOff, Jessie McCall
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# Hrekires reply

Hrekires reply
This goes for both genders, but don't date someone under the assumption that they'll change something fundamental about themselves. Not fair to either of you.
Hrekires, René Ranisch
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# Geek_Therapist reply

Geek_Therapist reply
If he starts throwing tantrums over petty things, there is worse on the horizon. He's not passionate, he's unstable.
Geek_Therapist, Japheth Mast
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# cashformoldd reply

cashformoldd reply
I’ve seen stories of guys who rage and break their things when gaming. As someone who has been playing video games for about 20 years now, that is not normal nor is it okay. Like swearing sure, that’s understandable, but getting angry and breaking stuff ain’t it. It’s just violent behavior and a red flag.
cashformoldd, Sean Do
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# thrax7545 reply

thrax7545 reply
Any aversion to taking responsibility.
The older I get the more I find that the men I respect most aren’t the ones with great achievements to theirs names, but rather the ones who aren’t afraid to own their s**t.
thrax7545, Mark Farías
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# jnwiggs1 reply

jnwiggs1 reply
When someone is declaring multiple times they are not a certain way without prompt, they are actually that way.
jnwiggs1, Nik Shuliahin
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# BuckyGoldman reply

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If anything happens to him and he always shifts blame to someone else, or something else, or the situation, that is a big red flag. Sooner or later everything will be your fault.
Also, if their story, complaint, rant, or explanation sounds too one sided, (again unable to take blame themselves) they are lacking empathy... red flag.
BuckyGoldman, Afif Ramdhasuma
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# Yougotthewronglad reply

Yougotthewronglad reply
Blaming their childhood on treating you and others like rubbish.
Yougotthewronglad, Daiga Ellaby
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