So my partner of x years and our child 7, just moved in with my MIL. We all rented a new location together because rent is so much. Been here a month. Partner and I don't go out often if we do we take our kid or have my friends/family child sit. Well tonight my MIL did because, well my friends and family are busy, Father's Day weekend n all, I will not again. We left home at 5 pm, my child was not crazy hungry so I cut up apples with some chocolate sauce, we got home at 1030pm from a dinner an show. My child is in bed around 8 usually. Child crawls out of grandmas bed just a wailing. My heart cracked.. After we left, child asked grandma for dinner around 7 pm. The child didn't get anything. Grandma apparently kept saying no. I've never heard my child cry like that. I feel like I messed up leaving her with MIL grandma. My partner said he would talk with her tomorrow. We mentioned last weekend we wanted to go out for Father's Day, just us. She said she would watch Child. I guess she forgot, then we mentioned it again as we were getting dressed. She is a waitress gets up at 4 am (no reason to, she needs to be there at 630 am) takes sleeping pills to pass out at 4 pm usually. I figured she wouldn't take it till later or not at all because well the CHILD. Am I an AH for expecting her to cook a hot dog or am I an AH for not teaching my just turned 7 child how to use a microwave yet or NOT anything because MIL said she would handle it. I feel so bad.
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NTA. Your 7 year old child should not be responsible for making their own meal, that was your MIL’s job. If she said she’d watch the kid, she should know the responsibilities that come with that. Don’t feel like a bad parent though; you had no idea something like this would happen. You wanted to enjoy a nice night out that you don’t get to do often and thought you had found a good babysitter for your kid; it’s not on you whatsoever. Who denies a child dinner? Unfortunately you have to live with her, but I would have a conversation with her on why that’s not at all okay.
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