My boyfriend and I have lived together for 7 months. He works 4 days a week for 10.5 hours per day plus he usually works overtime 1 day a week for 4-6 hours. His commute takes 30 minutes in the morning and about an hour at night. I work from home 5 days a week 7.5 hours per day. No commute, obviously. We split all expenses 50/50 and make about the same amount of money, if that matters. Because I have more free time I do the majority of cleaning, cooking, shopping, etc. I also take care of feeding and walking the dog usually. My boyfriend really enjoys a very clean house (his mother keeps a very neat and clean house). I do too, and most days I feel that I am keeping the house looking good.
My issue is that he will come home, or get up on the weekend, and start pointing out the things that are dirty (like the stove top is dirty from cooking the night before or there are crumbs on the counter). He tells me I have to sweep and clean the whole kitchen, including the stovetop, every day. When I explain that I am doing some cleaning every day and I don't have time to do everything if I have to clean the whole kitchen every day he tells me I am making excuses. If I explain all the things I've done in the last 2 days for example to show that I am using my time to get things done he says I am getting defensive. I told him he can do any cleaning that he feels I am not doing, and he got pissed at me and told me he wishes he had the free time I have and it would be easy for him to do so I should be able to handle everything no problem. So, AITA?
My issue is that he will come home, or get up on the weekend, and start pointing out the things that are dirty (like the stove top is dirty from cooking the night before or there are crumbs on the counter). He tells me I have to sweep and clean the whole kitchen, including the stovetop, every day. When I explain that I am doing some cleaning every day and I don't have time to do everything if I have to clean the whole kitchen every day he tells me I am making excuses. If I explain all the things I've done in the last 2 days for example to show that I am using my time to get things done he says I am getting defensive. I told him he can do any cleaning that he feels I am not doing, and he got pissed at me and told me he wishes he had the free time I have and it would be easy for him to do so I should be able to handle everything no problem. So, AITA?
