#1
truthfully, some do not deserve it.
#2
After being in corporate America for over a decade, I know people up top are clueless.
#3
As you scroll through the list, you will realize that some of these so-called truths are considered quite normal in today's age, and kids are coaxed to believe them without reason. However, to throw light on how they realize it's not right, Bored Panda got in touch with Eden Lobo, a counselor and psychology professor.
She spoke about Erik Erikson’s psychosocial stage of “Identity vs Role Confusion”, which centers on forming a personal identity that may differ from parental or cultural expectations.
"The drive for autonomy often pushes people to re-evaluate inherited beliefs to establish their own worldview. Other aspects like life experiences, exposure, emotional maturity, and social and cultural shifts also play a big part in influencing how and why childhood beliefs passed down by parents may be questioned or rejected in adulthood," she added.
#5
Prof. Lobo also explained how, during childhood, the brain is highly impressionable, and early parental messages can serve as both a foundation and a cage. She stressed that children often internalize them, especially when tied to love, safety, or approval, and this can impact their self-esteem and self-concept.
She gave a simple example to understand this impact:
Positive messages (e.g., “you’re capable,” “you are loved as you are”) tend to foster secure, resilient identities. Meanwhile, negative or rigid messages (e.g., “don’t cry,” “don't pay attention to the bullies”) can lead to self-doubt, people-pleasing, perfectionism, or chronic guilt.
#8
A lovely concept with pretty much no basis in reality for the vast majority of humans.
#9
According to our expert, when adults try to question or reject these childhood beliefs, it’s not just about changing ideas, it’s often about rewriting identity and relearning self-worth from the inside out. She also brought up the family systems theory, which suggests that healthy identity formation requires differentiation, meaning: the ability to develop a sense of self distinct from family influence.
"If differentiation is low, adults may struggle to form independent values and continue living in alignment with outdated parental expectations, even if those beliefs cause harm. Many psychologists help clients reconstruct their identity by identifying and challenging inherited beliefs that no longer align with their authentic self," Prof. Lobo noted.
#10
#11
I was 5
I sure believed it for a long time.
#12
When we spoke to our expert about the unresolved conflicts between parental teachings and adult values, she claimed that they can show up, often unconsciously, in relationships and parenting. She thinks that to reject their upbringing, some adults swing to the opposite extreme, which can create an imbalance.
"When adults experience this internal conflict, they might face challenges not only in disciplining their children but also in asserting needs in relationships. A child raised with rigid rules might grow into a permissive parent who avoids setting boundaries, or a partner raised in a conflict-avoidant home might overemphasize confrontation, mistaking it for healthy communication," she noted.
Prof. Lobo believes that this can lead to emotional suppression, people-pleasing, or staying in unhealthy dynamics out of fear of being 'disloyal.'
#15
Well, if we have gleaned anything from the insights that our expert gave, it's always best to resolve and confront the conflicts between parental teachings and adult values. Who knows in what form they may foster within us and harm something that we don't even consider!
That's it from our end, folks. Now we head over to you and your thoughts on the matter. Also, if you have any such things to share that your parents taught you, which you no longer believe, feel free to type out your heart in the comments. We are always here with a patient ear!
#16
Later learned that it’s one of the better ways to make large and early career gains as well as easiest to switch companies to level up.
#17
#18
I gotta say, I respectfully disagree.
#19
This is hyperbole, but growing up in a religious household, it feels like this is the message.
#20
Ironically, neither of my parents gave a single s**t about anyone but themselves. They certainly didn't care about each other. Or me.
In retrospect, I'm pretty sure this was some weird manipulative s**t to try to get me to be more dependent on them and lower their risk of anyone hearing about what s****y people (and parents) they were.