Someone Asked, “What’s A Sad Truth You Only Realize When You’re An Adult?”, Here Are 58 Of The Most Honest Responses

"My father wasn’t hard on me because he wanted the best for me; he was hard on me because he saw me as a reflection of his self-worth."

Redditor said:
"Work until you’re too old to enjoy life. What kind of bulls*** is that?"

Rebel-Yellow replied:
"I type out of my a** because I really have no idea but the majority of us in the workforce now will never really get the opportunity to retire and those accounts we're paying into just ensure even more comfort to those already guarenteed a cushy life. People get mad when I "joke" about never getting to retire so why the f*** care about putting any and all spare money into an account for later. I make highly specialized meds for fringe case child cancer patients, yet I barely break 16 an hour. The idea of 'retirement' is hilarious and I can only hope I'll be long dead by the time it's projected 'retirement' could happen. I daydream about winning the lottery and either throwing huge chunks of it at paying off local student debt or trying to do things that might make living accessible. 850+ for the baseline 1BR apartment that's probably infested with problems is ridiculous, what the f**k kind of income can support that on just base rent alone?"

"As much as we hated school, we should have tried taking it seriously and learning all the subjects to the best of our ability and, if possible, requested extra study or programs, learning later on life is hard as there are less programs available to brush up or become more skilled, and most certainly, these programs can be moderately expensive to very expensive as there's very few programs that are government funded that will help much, and if there are some, they are usually very busy and have wait times. So, any kids reading this, even if you hate school, grab all the subjects by the balls and milk them and do the best you can."

sharpy_626 said:
"That school wasn't as bad as you thought it was. So much you could do as a kid just isn't that possible as an adult."

olearygreen replied:
"I disagree with this. Could have done 6 years of school in 4. High school is a giant waste of time. Even more so looking back than I already thought it was going through it. School was not bad but such a giant waste of time."

"We can't avoid bills."

endofthedamnrope said:
"Ultimately, you’re on your own. Sure people might love and care for you but when it comes down to it, it’s just you."

fjongfasong replied:
"Agreed, I realized this at the age of 39, with the sole responsibility of two kids."

69No-Satisfaction69 also replied:
"I realized this now during Corona. I also lately became anxious about my mother dying from high blood pressure, if I wouldn't have her, there wouldn't be another one, who unconditionally supports and loves me. We are so far removed from this big family of a tribe, humans used to have, which makes me so sad because I always wanted something like that."

polzkaa said:
"Your paychecks are always disappointing."

Redditor replied:
"And they’re spent too quickly."

KotexAvenger also replied:
"The week is long and the check is short, that's for damn sure."

User No 1 said:
"Accepting yourself for wanting a partner. I feel like in this day in age, we glorify independency. But supreme independence isn’t ideal, at least for me. Of course, it’s good to do certain things on your own but having a partner by your side is great also."

ultravioletblueberry replied:
"I feel it’s the opposite. I find that most people are obsessive about needing to find love and be with someone. I think it’s important to learn to be okay being alone with yourself before you enter into a relationship so it doesn’t create a toxic codependent dynamic."

UnicornPanties also replied:
"I'm in your lane. Similarly, I don't want to be stuck/trapped with someone who I don't enjoy being around just because we decided to move in together (and breaking up/moving out is HARD), yikes. Then what if they betray you in some awful way? Being single is pretty easy-peasy really."

"The adults aren’t any brighter than children, things make less sense in the “adult world”."

"The world will most likely never improve."

"You have fewer friends in adulthood. Also, when you're at school or university, pretty much everyone is the same age as you so you have lots in common. When you work in an office when you're older there's a good chance that everyone will be different ages and few will have the same things in common."

"Everyone you’ve ever met will die someday."

"That a lot of what you are told is the point of life in the US is a lie. It is there to make you a reliable workforce for the wealth."

"Generally, no one’s going to take care of all your needs."

"Maturity has nothing to do with your actually age, and you'll start to notice many of the adults you looked up to are just children who are pretending. To me it felt like losing some connection that I felt was always understood until... I grew up more, and now I see all those connections were just kinda... faked/misunderstandings or something. It's hard to describe kinda."

Jesmer8490 said:
"That there are very few people that truly care about you as a person."

buddhabuddha replied:
"Christ this is so depressing. I think this is made worse by how much our society has expanded. In small groups everyone has a role to play and the well-being of one member is important to everyone else because it directly impacts the whole group. Once you get into populations in the thousands, it’s impossible to care about everyone and each person is more expendable/replaceable. It’s easy to become invisible and just coast through life only being valued for the work you can do, or when people need something from you, and forgotten the instant you’re no longer useful."

Redditor said:
"Being around the wrong people can seriously decrease your quality of life."

freeloadingcat replied:
"That's why the rich goes to private school and ivy league..."

AverageSizeWayne replied:
"I pretty much did. It’s worse than being around normal people."

JohhnyTheKik also replied:
"From my experience private schools are often way worse in terms of bullying and toxicity."

"It’s sad to say but sometimes how shallow people can be (myself included). People easily like to make quick judgments about you based on your ethnicity, race, gender, beauty, income, and profession thinking they know everything about you and who are you; when in fact these factors don’t define a person’s character, intelligence, capacities and who they truly are as a person."

"That “Happily ever after” is a complete crock of s***."

"For a period of time, you will find yourself in the cycle of "need a car to go to work; mostly going to work to afford my car"."