30 Times People Received Marriage Advice That Sounded Absurd, But They Later Realized Was Spot-On

Dad said “Be kind even if you’re not feeling it. Maybe *especially* if you’re not feeling it.”

Most of the time you spend together is going to be non-sexual, so the most important thing is to be best friends. Otherwise, it won't last.

Marry him for who he is. Not his potential.

The point of arguing is not to win. It's to understand where they’re coming from and why this issue matters to them.

It's totally OK to sleep in separate beds...or even separate rooms if that's what works for you. I am not going to be a good partner if I only get four hours of sleep because I was listening to him snore all night, or if jobs require different sleeping schedules and you take a while to get to sleep

Be honest. Don't lie to your partner.

Clean up after yourself for God's sake.

Have separate duvets or blankets on the same bed. I can wrap myself up nice and snug, and she can move around all night without bothering me.

It's ok to go to bed angry.

We've always been told not to go to bed angry but sometimes a night of sleep can change your perspective and help with resolution.

My grandfather told me " Never go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink" . What I learned is that he would always help my grandma and that is when they did their most talking

On our wedding day, my father-in-law said, 'Always remember it's the two of you against the problem, not you two against one another.' It's been great advice, especially when we disagree. Focusing on this piece of advice has calmed a lot of arguments over the years.

Looks fade, marry someone who you enjoy talking to. -grandma

I also feel strongly about this one.

Find someone who is ok with you both having separate hobbies. My wife does her thing and I have my hobby. We share some hobbies, but we are ok with spending time apart too. We don't have to always do them together. I couldn't imagine marrying a woman who needed to do every single thing I did just to be around me. She needs to have her own life and I love not forcing her into the nerdy stuff I enjoy.

'Don’t worry about what other people think is 'normal.' I’ve been married for almost 20 years, and this piece of insight has made all the difference. You don't need to conform to society’s standards. Do what works for you and your partner in a marriage.

'Never ask your partner to make a sacrifice for you that you wouldn’t make for them if the roles were reversed.

When our kid was about to be born, someone told me to change the first diaper. "If you can handle the first one, the others will be easy." So I did. I didn't know what I was doing, so I asked the nurse at the hospital to teach me, and I changed the first several few diapers while my wife recovered from a difficult labor.

The advice was correct, no other diaper was as disgusting as the first one. It got very easy and I never minded doing it, and my wife was really really grateful. And I loved that I could take on some of the parenting chores, since there was so much that she was the only one... equipped to provide.

The advice I’ve given people is this: if you can go grocery shopping with your person and have the best time ever, you have yourself a keeper. It’s all about making the best of the mundane things, because after years of being together, life becomes predictable. You’ll need to keep the spice going, regardless of what you’re doing.

Source: married 15 years.

My fiance always says that "just because" flowers are the best kind of flowers.

A meme when I was first getting married was, "Happy wife, happy life". Which has some degree of accuracy.

But much later, I learned the better version, which I should have been more considerate of: "Happy Spouse, Happy House".

My father always said that the best thing he and my mother did for their marriage was get a king-sized bed. I always thought it was ridiculous advice until recently, when my wife and I needed a new bed. We spent the extra money on a king, and I'll be damned if that wasn't one of the best decisions we have made. The extra room is amazing: We can snuggle or have some space, and when our kids try and get in bed, there's enough room that no one is getting a foot to the face.

'The grass is greener when you water it.' This one always stuck with me. Your relationship is what you make of it, and it will be happier if you put love and effort into it.