Understanding who you are and what you bring to the table will cut off anyone who doesn't meet your standards. Knowing your worth will scare away those who don't have good intentions. Knowing and understanding that you are someone worth loving will help you dismiss anyone who is only looking for a half ass relationship. Loving yourself will help you to never settle for a relationship that wants but never gives. It will require the person pursuing you to act right because your standards won't allow you to settle for mere crumbs. Here are five reasons why you should know and love yourself before someone else.
1. PEOPLE DON'T OWE YOU ANYTHING
Understanding people don't owe you anything will save you from expectations they might not meet. You don't owe anyone anything simply because they love you. Never feel like you have to go the extra mile to earn their love. You don't have to work for love. Love is sustaining and free. When you feel inadequate you start to feel like you are not doing enough to earn their love and the minute you stop working for it you will lose it. You can only control what you can, and let the rest be.
2. NEED IS NOT LOVE
When you feel you need someone to spoon feed you your self worth it becomes evident that you are lacking self love. Love as a slave to your own desperation isn’t love at all. Your happiness does not derive from having someone by your side. You shouldn't feel like you need someone in order to feel happy. A needy person only ends up pushing the person away.
3. DEPENDENCE IS NOT LOVE
You don't need anyone to make you feel empowered. No one should feel like they have to constantly motivate you. When you depend on the other person to do for you what you should be doing for yourself it puts a strain on the relationship.
4. DON'T PLACE YOUR VALUE IN SOMEONE ELSE'S HANDS
Self awareness is the first step to self love. People will gravitate to you more when you are yourself. When you are aware of your value you will be open to love. You will want and crave it, but you will never ask for it.
5. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE AND WORTH
Some people just love, and some people don’t. Sometimes, we break our own hearts for other people, and sometimes it’s not enough. If someone loves you, it's real, whether you deserve it or not. Take control over your own person and know that your worth won't allow you to settle for just anyone who is not willing to give you the love that you are willing to give.
Loving who you are will only allow you invite someone willing to put forth the effort needed to make things work. When you are lacking self love and your emotions are all over the place you will attract medicinal people who will only serve as a band aid for the real issue at hand. LACK OF SELF LOVE!
