Breakups can affect each of us very differently, and leave their mark on so many aspects of our lives. Before we fully move on, we might find ourselves sobbing hysterically in bed some days and drained of emotion on others. We might long to be around friends 24/7 or retreat into isolation, struggle to sleep or never leave the bed.
One of the most blissful parts of falling in love is getting so close to someone that you feel as though you are almost merging, and the hardest part is having to let go of what you thought was your forever.
1. Its hard letting go of all the memories that were created with that person. The days and nights that were spent talking about a future together. The amount of months and years invested into someone whom you thought was your forever.
2. You're in love with the man he showed you in the beginning; and you're thankful for the memories made. But you have realized that in relationships, it’s not about how they start, it’s about what they continuously show. And you refuse to let the person he ONCE was be the reason you let yourself keep getting hurt by the person he has become.
3. You're less mad...more hurt. Because it was him you jumped through hoops for. It was him you were always there to pick back up before his back ever even hit the ground....because that's what you do when you really down for someone. Maybe it was your mistake for making someone your priority while being treated as an option by them.
4. You are still very much in love with them and as the days go by you start to feel empty and alone without them in your life to the point that you contemplate calling them to make things right even though it was their fault.
5. You still have text messages, pictures, and e-mails saved on your phone from when things between the two of you were perfect and it takes you back to certain times where they made you believe they would never leave your life. You still have certain objects laying around that remind you of them.
Breakups are painful and those intense feelings and impulses will lessen and you’ll eventually start feeling like yourself again. Never allow someone change you into someone you are not, because there is someone out there who deserves the love you have to offer. And it’s worth keeping in mind that, often times, the best way to truly let go of a bad breakup is to start a new relationship and get the whole wonderful cycle started again.
