73 Surprising Things People Didn’t Know About Their Long-Term Partners For Years

I’ve been with my husband for 11 years. We just had our first baby girl a week ago and baby and I were hospitalized for a week after birth. A lactation consultant swung by my hospital room while hubby happened to be out getting breakfast for us. After helping me set up my pump and giving me some helpful advice about breastfeeding, she let me know that she actually went to high school with my husband. That’s when she told me a story from more than a decade ago, about how she was bullied a lot in high school, and she mentioned this one specific instance where a few bullies were blocking her from pulling out from her parking spot. She said that’s when my husband came sprinting across the parking lot, told them off and made sure she could get out safely. She said that was just one of several times my husband stood up and looked out for her in high school and that she’ll never forget it. I always knew my husband was a good man, but I just didn’t know he was knight in shining armor, “What Would You Do” John Quiñones level-good. It just made me love him that much more.

When my husband and I had been together for over 10 years, married for 2 and we had a son together, we visited his grandfather's house.  His grandfather had a grand piano, and my husband sat down and just immediately started playing some incredibly beautiful song.  I was so stunned, I thought it must have been a Player piano and he was just pretending to play it.  Nope, he had taken years of lessons as a kid and just never mentioned it, and I guess we had just never been anywhere with a piano that he could play before.  It was wild.

He doesn't like gray socks. Like the look of them make him uncomfortable. We were married about 10 years exactly when I found out.

I've been buying gray socks our whole relationship!!! He could have told me. I mean, I like white socks too.

That he doesn’t like lollipops because, and I quote, ‘they’re too time consuming’ 😂.

My wife and I have been married 7 years and dated off and on for about 15 years before that. About two years ago she told me her mom used to make her take all the blankets and pillows off her bed before she went to sleep because those were the good blankets and pillows and not the blankets and pillows for sleeping. She would have to remake the bed with the sleeping blankets and pillows and put the good blankets and pillows back on in the morning. Every day until she went to university.

It used to drive me crazy that she didn't make her bed before we got married. Now I understand why, and she has gone to sleep in a bed I made and will for the rest of our days together.

Husband and I have been together for 11 years, married for almost five. Since having kids we have started to really sink our teeth into the different ways we were parented and how it impacted our childhood. Learned that my husband never got to do “science kid stuff” that helps you learn how the world works. It was “too messy”. He now keeps a homemade terrarium (dirt, moss, an earthworm, and some ladybugs) and some of those Walmart grow your own flower kits (he’s got daisies for our daughter, a bonsai tree and aloe for himself) on our windowsill. At first I was confused, but now I know that he’s nurturing a part of himself that never got any attention. He’s always going to encourage our kids to be curious. I’m proud to parent with him.

After a year of marriage I found out he speaks several languages fluently. I was on the phone talking with a friend (completely in Spanish) about throwing him a surprise birthday party. After hanging up he proceeded to tell me that the date worked for him too. When I asked him what he date he was referring to he started speaking in Spanish, then proceeded to speak to me in other languages. Needless to say I’ve had to be on the sly when planning anything surprising for him since.

He didn’t realise carrot cake had actual carrots in it. I found that out a few months ago, just after our 12 year anniversary 😆.

We’ve been together 13 years and we have two kids, and I’ve found out through raising our kids that my husband never really had a childhood in the traditional sense, like his mother just straight up did not like him, he never had birthday parties or went to a carnival, the first time I took him and our kids to the state fair he cried happy tears. He’s the biggest sweetheart and an extremely attentive father, he just gets extra emotional during holidays and birthdays.

I have been pronouncing my husband's name wrong our entire relationship and he never corrected me. We were well into our marriage when I questioned the pronunciation and that's when he admitted to it. I have epilepsy and some brain damage because of it, so he thought I'd be self conscious if he corrected me...which I wouldn't be. To this day I still call him by his incorrect name because it's been ingrained into my head for over 10+ years. I've tried to make the change, but it's been unsuccessful. At the end of the day he doesn't mind.

I met my wife on our first day of college, and she's always been a lot classier and more interesting than me. She's now an art gallery curator and even then was well dressed, cultured and popular. She teased me for being a dork because my buddies and I moved into a glorious nerd house where we would stay up all night playing Halo and COD, making stupid zombie movie shorts, and lived off beer and ramen. So colour me shocked when she reveals about 15 years afterwards that, when she was a teenager, she ran the D&D club at her high school and had a full hobbit costume made by her grandma (including cape and hobbit feet), and that her teenage crush was Frodo Baggins...

My friend once dropped a silly "FEeD mE SeAmOuR" and I started to explain to my husband that it's from the musical Little Shop of Horrors, because he has never once shown any interest in musicals or plays.

Come to find out he knows every word to all the songs in Little Shop of Horrors, Les Mis, Oaklahoma, and probably a dozen other musicals. His secondary school had an excellent music and drama program. He is absolutely not a theater kid and hates being the center of attention, I cannot imagine him on a stage. I have now seen the home videos and oh my gosh. What a cutie patootie 15-year-old up there.

It is such a unique and fulfilling delight to learn something new about the people you have loved for so long.

My husband has color blindness, one of the rarer kinds. We had been together for over 20 years before I realized (and he discovered himself that day). So a lot of his statements about things like the color of the sky made a lot more sense from that point on. .

He doesn't like Phil Collins. He actually hates him. I'm playing some music for our kids and he just casually says "I really hate this song (in the air tonight) and I hate Phil Collins." 


Known him for 22 years, together for 18....never would've expected that. .

I found our YEARS into the relationship that he doesn’t like toast. It’s a texture thing, not a taste thing. But still didn’t know about it until I moved in with him.

This has now become the ending of all arguments “well, you don’t like toast!!” Or from his perspective “well, you like toast!” It always diffuses the situation and makes us start cracking up.

We’re celebrating our ten year marriage anniversary next week (been together for 15+ years).

After 10+ years I learned my wife can sense my mood before I even realize I’m in one. Kinda wild how deeply people can know each other when the walls stay down.

We’ve been together 14 years. Probably on the sillier side of replies but I knew he had taken karate lessons as a kid. We recently got on the topic of parades randomly and he told me that his karate school would walk in local parades and perform a routine to “Kung Fu Fighting” during it and I just thought that was the most adorable thing!

We know so much about each other but one of my favorite things is finding out these random, small tidbits from his life - especially ones that have made him happy at the time.

ETA: he also doesn’t like soup and I’ve known that forever and it still surprises me. Who doesn’t like soup??

20+ years together here: Last year I caught my husband peeling a banana in its entirety, disposing of the peel, then eating the peeled, sticky banana by holding it with his bare fingers. Apparently he’s been doing this the whole time.

20+ years. Last year discovered he doesn't like cucumber with tuna.

(This year discovered he thought beavers lived in the dam.).

Just last night, I watched him eat dinner and then wipe his greasy hands on the ankles of his *socks* because "they're the most disposable article of clothing". Guess he was doing it discreetly this whole time ?

Together for 11 years, married for 8. He's a weirdo, but he's my weirdo❤️.