Are you REALLY meant to be?
You know you're crazy about him, but even if you're madly in love you still may have some doubts about whether the two of you, as a couple, are actually meant to be. Sure, everything feels perfect right now, but how do you know you'll feel the same way in a year, in ten years, in your lifetime? How do you know what you have is the real thing?
1. You tell him things you don't tell anyone else.
We don't mean blurting something out after you've had too much merlot, but the desire to tell him intimate details about your life means you trust him — a major component of successful long-term love.
2. You let him see you in moments of weakness.
It's easy to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see him when you've been denied a raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? He should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden.
3. You respect him.
You don't want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life — he insists on wearing his favorite, holey t-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons — but you like him, plain and simple.
4. He makes you proud.
You feel proud of him and you want to show him off, as opposed to feeling like you have to make excuses for him.
5.You can imagine a future together.
You don't have to practice writing your first name with his last name, but do you periodically let your mind wander to picture a life together? Is it amazing?
6. You're not afraid to disagree with him.
You know that even if you fight, he'll listen to you and won't brush you off. He takes you seriously, even when he thinks you're wrong.
7. You want to work out your major differences.
If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together — different opinions about religion, money or something else — you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you.
8. You're incredibly, utterly, surprisingly attracted to him.
Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy relationship. And if he's not perfectly fit or your usual "type"? Even more reason to think he's the one.
9. You laugh together.
Laughter is one of life's simplest pleasures. You should definitely be able to crack each other up.
10. Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy relationship. And if he's not perfectly fit or your usual "type"? Even more reason to think he's the one.
You don't feel like you have to fill the space between you with chatter or other interaction. Instead, you feel an easy comfort.
