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I started with pleasantries and was going over how to tell him in my head and my boss cut me off to tell me I was laid off immediately and getting a nice severance package.
Had I spoken up earlier I wouldn't have gotten 4 months of salary and benefits as well as my final bonuses.
No matter how smart and experienced you are, no matter how sharp your instincts, you can’t deny that luck plays a major role in your life. There are only so many things that you can control in life, and some unforeseen events and other people’s decisions will inevitably affect you, no matter how (un)prepared you are. The best you can do is clarify your values, slowly move toward your goals every day, and control how you respond (not react) to whatever life throws at you.
The stories in this list are prime examples that you can never quite predict what will happen to you. There will be moments when not doing something can lead to better outcomes than if you act more quickly. And yet, being proactive and deciding your own fate is, overall, a better way to live life, instead of constantly being at the mercy of others.
It is highly likely that you, like we, have experienced analysis paralysis, also known as choice paralysis, where you are so overwhelmed with options that you overthink and can’t make a decision. Some of us (hi, how are you?) deal with this more often than others. There are moments when even the tiniest choices, like what flavor of ice cream you’d like, seem impossible to make.
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Yada yada yada.. corporate job did the corporate job thing and started sucking hard so I went back to a state job at the university and the new pension rules were terrible..
Turns out because I did not touch my pension funds I get to be grandfathered into the older more generous pension rules and can retire early .
Analysis paralysis is often tied to anxiety, depression, and ADHD, but it also affects people who do not have mental health issues.
“Oftentimes, what we see with this phenomenon is that people start to doubt themselves or question themselves. And they think that other people know more than them or that other people are more capable of making the decision,” registered psychotherapist Natacha Duke, RP, explains.
“In our lives, we need to have decision-making skills to be able to function at our optimal level. If we’re not able to do that, it can cause physical stress symptoms like heart palpitations, insomnia, migraines, even digestive issues as well.”
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The most common signs of choice paralysis involve you:
- Constantly looking for more information without reaching a conclusion
- Strongly fearing making the wrong decision
- Delaying making decisions by analyzing the situation more
- Missing or postponing deadlines
- Feeling stressed due to constant analysis
- Often seeking other people’s advice, especially from multiple sources
So what’s the solution? Like any other skill in life, practice and repetition can help form healthier habits and mindsets. If analysis paralysis is making your life hell, you can start by simplifying small decisions and doing quick-decision practice.
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1. Awesome, exciting job in Antarctica. Great pay, cool professional development, once in a lifetime opportunity. But with a hiring process requiring about five million tedious steps.
2. Boring local job with mediocre pay. Hiring process was just saying “yes” to the offer.
I chose the boring job because I was too lazy to deal with the red tape for Antarctica. Felt pretty stupid and knew I’d regret it.
Three months later my wife got a brain tumor and needed surgery. If I’d taken the Antarctica job I’d have been stuck at the south pole unable to help her through it.
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I’m uk based so our mortgage deals are always 2, 3 or 5 year fixed deals. I always went for 2 years as these were the best interest rates. I’d done this for 10 years as mortgage rates had always been low.
It was such a faff renewing every 2 years I thought I’d get a 5 year. As I was looking through mortgage offers I noticed one bank offered a 10 year mortgage for 2.6% instead of 2.15% for the 5 year.
I thought it was worth the extra small payments as I couldn’t be bothered to renew again so soon.
Mortgage rates jumped to 6% not long after.
Literally saved my self thousands of pounds because I was too lazy to renew my mortgage after 5 years.
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For example, you can try making faster decisions with low-stakes choices like what restaurant to go to, what food you’ll buy at the supermarket, what coffee you order, what you’ll wear to work or school that day, and what your morning or evening routine is like.
“Give yourself maybe five minutes in front of the shampoo aisle or the protein powder aisle and really just try to make those simple decisions with a time limit. The key here is not to get stuck. This way you’re not feeling bogged down, and you’re building your confidence to make other decisions in the future,” Duke suggests.
When it comes to bigger, more important decisions, reassure yourself that things are not as impossible as you think. Remember the times in your past when you made good decisions. Use your life experience as fuel for navigating your present and future.
In the meantime, try to trust your instincts more, instead of overwhelming yourself with endless options. In other words, try to balance research, opinions, advice, and information with clarity and ease.
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At the end of the day, however, you can never tell in advance what decisions will lead to what consequences. In short, you have to get used to a certain level of uncertainty in life. You need to be at peace with the idea that your choices won’t always be ‘right’ or ‘wrong,’ but will lead to different outcomes that could have their own upsides and downsides.
If you get overwhelmed by analysis paralysis and decision fatigue, distract yourself, give yourself some grace, and have a decent break. Go on a nature walk. Exercise and move your body. Do some meditation or breathing exercises.
However, if your choice paralysis is causing you lots of anxiety, stress, and distress in your daily life, harming your work, relationships, and responsibilities, you should reach out to a mental health specialist for support.
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I begrudgingly paid and picked it up 29 days before the wedding. 2 days before the wedding, it came out that the bride to be was cheating on the groom. Before calling the groom to comfort him, I called the suit shop & begged them to take back the hideous suit.
Luckily I was still within the 30 day return window and got a full refund, the other 6 groomsmen were not so lucky.
What is your experience with good and bad luck like, Pandas? How good at making important life choices would you say you are?
What is a moment in your life when you were lazy and procrastinated way too much, and it actually protected you from something bad?
On the other hand, what is a time when you were incredibly quick, proactive, and decisive, and it led to something genuinely good?
We’re curious to hear all about these events, so don’t be shy and drop by the comments section.
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